Hey guys!

So this is a subject that we've talked a lot about in random videos,

but we've never dedicated any video to it before, so...

I feel like it's overdue

The subject of saying "I love you" in Japan

So it's kind of not a huge thing in Japan that a lot of people say to their loved ones.

But first I think we should start out by actually translating "I love you" into Japanese

Because there are a couple different ways to translate it

Mkay

So if you watch a drama or anime

A lot of the times you'll see a character saying "suki desu"

and that gets translated to "I love you"

Ahhhh~

I always get confused by that

Right

They're not even dating or anything, just...

Right, and then like, super suddenly

I LOVE YOU!!!

They're so intense!

What?

But "suki desu" actually means "I like you" and

Yeah

That's how you would directly translate it

You say...

Like, confession, right?

Right

I like you

Suki desu

Right

And you don't just use that to people, you say "suki desu" for anything

like "neko ga suki"

"I like cats" or whatever

I mean it's stronger than "I like cats"

but it's less, less, less than "I love you"

Right

And I think the confusion as to why that gets translated as love

comes down to the fact that "love" in English has a very broad range of meanings to it

Mkay

Like, that you can say "love" about a person where you really really

love that person and that has a lot of meaning to you

But you can also say like, "I LOVE THESE SHOES!" or whatever

and that's obviously not nearly as intense

So I feel like...

That's

That's not a common usage in Japan

You don't say really say "I love these shoes"

Right

So that's why I feel like when they say

When they translate "suki desu" to love, I feel like it's

that level of love in English

It's not like, you know, 100 intense level love

It's more like the English "I really like you"

That kind of thing

Hmmm

So, the level 100 love in Japan, in Japanese

that's "Aishiteru"

You would say "Aishiteru" for that

Normally it's a really strong and

Traditionally

Like, maybe you would say that in a

wedding ceremony?

Yeah, wedding ceremony

Jun has joked about it a lot of times before where

he said, to him it feels like something you would say on your death bed

Like a death bed confession to your loved one

"I love you"

*dies*

and then like, pass away?

Pass away

Like that

Like it's that level intense

So obviously this isn't everyone in Japan

there are people who say, um, "I love you" to their partners

I'm sure

Right?

In Japanese?

Yeah, in Japanese

Maybe

So we've seen Japanese commons before who

have agreed with Jun's like, usage of "I love you"

where it's like

It's something "You don't say that!"

that's like "That's really difficult to say!"

because it's like so intense

Yeah, we don't just say it

Yeah, you don't just say it here

I mean there are people in America who don't use it

lightly either

There are definitely families that, you know, don't show a lot of open affection like that

But it's different

But I feel like it's different because in my culture,

if you don't say "I love you" to your family members

then people think you're closed off

or they think that you're like

emotionally distant,

or maybe your family isn't very open with each other

So I mean there are people who don't say it

but there's a negative stigma to that

It's just different

But it's not,

that's not the case here

There's not a negative stigma to not saying it, right?

It's

It's something that's there

It's not something we say

if that makes sense to you

Right

Japan I guess, isn't a very like

verbally affectionate country

At least

this is how my interpretation of it from what I've heard

from Jun over these past 5 and a half years

It feels like you don't have to say it in Japanese, like

there's no need to say it because

people know

We just didn't grow up like that so it's also strange

so I can remember my family when I gave them a hug

at the airport, they're like super shy, they're like

Right

Yeah

I did it to make fun of them and just joke around

They were happy but they're uncomfortable too

Right

Because we didn't grow up like that

Right

And I think a lot of

foreign viewers who hear you say that are gonna say

"Isn't that just your family? Are there families that are

a lot more open in Japan?"

There are some families that are open,

but just saying "I love you" in Japanese

"Aishiteru"

is just not a thing, really

Maybe, but

I assume there aren't very many

I hear what Jun's saying and I understand it,

but it's really difficult for me to comprehend

not needing or wanting to say "I love you" because

it's just like so deeply ingrained in my culture

Maybe this is just me, but I'm sure there are

a lot of people like me too

Um

We do something nice, something considerate

does it make sense to you?

Right

Instead of saying it

Right

And we tried

We don't really try to prove it but

we do it by action

Not just words

Right

And we have a word for that

There's actually a really famous book in English

called "The Five Love Languages"

Okay

Where it breaks down 5 different ways that people

show their love and how they want to be shown love

And so I feel like Japan, like the entire country

is acts of service

So

*Pfftttt*

There's one that's called acts of service

Okay

So people show their love for other people by

doing things for them

Okay

So like, working, or doing household chores,

or cooking or something

AND THAT'S YOU

That's something like I do everyday, don't I?

THAT IS JUN

like all the way

He's like 100% acts of service

But you just think I'm just a nice person

But

Well, yeah for me

THAT'S FROM MY LOVE, okay?

That's how my love language

That's from my love

So I feel like there's

Japan as a culture leans toward acts of service

I'd say there's a word called "Omoiyari",

I think it's closer to what this

our concept of love

Right

Just

It's there

Right

You feel it

You feel it

Yup

And if you like,

grab a Japanese person, you wouldn't even think

about wanting to say it

But

But do you think they would be happy if their

partner say "I love you"?

If they say "I love you" in English, maybe

they're fine like me

Right

But if you just suddenly come home and just say

"Aishiteru" to your partner, normally they're

"Okay"

That's the reaction you'll probably get

What if it's like

What if it's after a nice date or something?

Or you had like, a nice like, deep conversation with them?

And you're having like a really good mood,

would they be happy if their partner said "Aishiteru"?

I think so

Well it depends of course

like it's a nice thing to say

It's just something you don't really say that often

or lightly

So just to let you guys know

we say it all the time in our relationship

Jun wasn't super comfortable with it at the

very beginning of our relationship

Even though he said it first

Um

But he got used to it really quickly after I guess,

like maybe two months

I don't remember how long it took me

So

Just

I'm growing up

And he says it

I think he says it more than I do now

We say it very often

Very frequently

We say it very frequently which

even in my culture some people don't like

Some people feel like the more you say it

the less meaning it has to it

That's exactly how I felt about it at first

That's how he felt about it at first

That's what Ryosuke said too

Right

And that's a very very common thing for people

to feel even in my culture

So that's not

That's not unique or strange at all

You know how I feel about it

We already have this conversation

Okay

So I guess that's all we really have to say about it now

but if you guys have any comments then

leave it down in the comments box below

It's there

It's there

It's there

You show it

You feel it, right?

I love you

I love you too

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