- So here's the thing with No Fap,

if you guys don't know what it is

it's called you know masturbating or masturbating to porn.

Okay, Fap.

Now porn I have a different take on it,

but let's just say that masturbation

part here's what happens.

So, (audience chuckles)

Let's get a little technical with this fapping.

(laughter)

Everyone, every guy and every girl,

every once in a while you're inspired to cum.

You kind of want to cum.

Why?

Just cause, cause it feels good and why not?

We all like to cum.

And we'll just define that cumming out of inspiration,

you were inspired to cum authentically, genuinely.

We'll put the little "I".

Inspirational Fapping. (audience chuckles)

That's you know humans.

Now what happens though is that because it feels so good,

it's also very easy to use as an escape.

And that's when you run away from all the shit

that you hate about yourself and then it turns

into fapping out of desperation.

So sometimes you're genuinely inspired,

you feel fucking awesome and you just want to fucking cum.

Hell yeah!

Sometimes you feel shitty.

Sometimes you're sitting at home and you feel kind of bored,

and you're like aw shit I fucking being with myself

maybe if I cum I'll forget for a little while.

And then you just cum.

And desperational fapping is you need it.

It's like a fucking drug.

And you're like I must cum, I must cum, I must cum.

And you just can't not cum.

This is what you kind of want to get rid of.

This is that escape, okay.

Now with no fap,

what it says is just stop fapping all together.

Let's just get rid of all of this never fap.

Do a no fap challenge.

Don't masturbate for a fucking year.

(audience chuckles)

Now as a stepping stone there,

if you're someone who's just fapping

so much you just can't function in society.

(audience laughs)

No fap is awesome for you,

you need no fap.

Like if that's all you do.

You're hanging out with your friends like,

one second need to go fap real fast.

(audience laughing) Like you can't get a job,

because you're fapping the whole time at work.

(audience laughs) If that's the case,

don't fap, don't fap.

However, realize that it doesn't get to the cause,

the cause is the shit you hate about yourself

the stuff you're running away from.

Get to the cause, stop running away from it,

and then you'll remove the fapping out of desperation

and all you'll be left with is the inspiration fap.

(audience laughs and cheers)

That's the key, you know.

Thank you.

And it's the same by the way with eating too by the way.

It's like we're all human,

we're all inspired to eat to survive.

Okay there's eating, inspirational eating.

But then there's also binge eating,

where you're not eating cause you're inspired to,

you're eating to escape yourself or to stuff shit down.

You're running away from this and your escape is food.

For me food is like one of my number one escapes by the way.

That's why if you guys even look in terms of me going

through the media scandal I got pretty heavy after.

So there's the desperational eating.

Now the solution that most people in society have,

and this is kind of the world we live

in including with fapping is we just shame it.

You know,

fat shaming, fap shaming! (laughs)

You know, it's like don't fap!

It's like there's the shaming,

but in reality it's like,

and this is why shaming never works.

And this why the PC thing is bad,

and people who shame PC is also bad too.

It's that you think okay someone's eating,

they're binge eating and that one of the reasons

out of many they could be a little bit obese.

You think that by shaming them they'll stop it.

But in reality by shaming them you're just adding

more shit to hate about themselves to run away from.

So just making shit way worse.

In reality we need a more empathetic approach

that gets to the cause that addresses all this

stuff you might hate about yourself

or you're running away from.

So then you're just left with the inspiration.

You're no longer need to use it as a form of escaping.

Get rid of what you're running away from,

now you no longer need to escape.

And this could be anything by the way.

You know, inspiration/desperation is all what's

inspiring you to do it.

Someone who's like a self-help junkie

who just can't stop they're just desperation self-help,

inspiration self-help.

Someone's who like just always watching TV shows

that's their form of escapism.

And there's two ways,

you can suppress it all and say oh I'm done completely,

or get to the real cause.

Now just force yourself to do it,

as I said it could be a good stepping stone

if you just lost control.

But it doesn't make it permanent.

You got to address all that stuff

you don't like inside of you.

Okay.

Makes sense?

- [Audience Members] Yes.

- Yeah.

But I always find it funny to read about no fap.

I haven't fapped in 30 days!

Yay!

70 days! (audience chuckles)

Yeah.

Fapping's good.

As I said the porn thing can be different,

I don't know if I'm a big fan of like

just porn all the time.

That will fuck with your brain.

But the fapping, hell yeah.

(audience laughs) Fap away!

And next time you fap,

think of me. (audience laughs)

Now it's too late,

now you're fucked you will!

(audience laughs)

There's your motivation to never fap again.

(audience laughs)

The next time you fap,

don't think of me. (rock music)

This is Julian and welcome to Transformation Mastery.

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