people thankfully dr. Irene Strauss Cohan has helpful advice regarding this

dr. Irene Strauss Cohen is a psychologist an avid blogger and a

professor at Barry University advising in the department of counseling her main

area of interest is helping people build foundations in their relationships and

keep them strong she's passionate about improving people's sense of self and

helping them be the best version they can be dr. Strauss makes it a point that

there is no real difference between a difficult person and someone who needs

help because most of the time they're one in the same

she says you aren't going to be unpleasant or hurtful to people unless

you feel that way inside about yourself I don't know if those people

specifically need love and care some of those people may not be in the space to

accept the love no matter how loving and caring the other person is dealing with

a difficult person can prove more challenging if it happens to be a family

member and especially if you live with them it isn't easy to be around people

that seem to always bring your mood down dr. Strauss observed adding there is not

one easy answer to this dr. Strauss suggests to manage yourself and your

anxiety around that person try to understand them through their upbringing

and story ultimately try to accept them for who they are if you can understand a

person you can better manage emotions around them without feeling so reactive

dr. Strauss also suggests to pay attention to your own behaviors and

triggers perhaps there's something you do that allows the person to negatively

influence and bring you down she reveals I have gotten to the point where I can

be around some difficult people without feeling the need to be so reactive fix

them to make them happier or want to avoid them it was hard for me to be

around typical people in my own family because I wanted to see people happy all

the time once I accepted that I wasn't responsible for their happiness I eased

up a bit dr. Strauss admits that people can influence each other and growing up

in an environment that is constantly negative can affect how you see and

relate to the world but if you create a life balance it is less likely to happen

dr. Strauss adds when it comes to family we can't really choose

I think we all have a negative family member or difficult person that most of

us try to avoid I don't think that one person can ruin your positive

disposition entirely when around negative or even highly positive people

I remember that all of that derives from their anxiety for some people's

negativity comes from being a highly anxious person and for others being

positive may help them reduce it all of the negative is usually exaggerated from

an anxious person if you can manage your own anxiety and look at the fact of

whatever the person is negative about it won't bother you as much it's easy to

spot a typical person according to dr. Strauss they tend to make everything

about themselves how few friends and are hyper sensitive it's normal to have a

disagreement with anyone so that isn't always an indication also if you find

everyone difficult to deal with you should probably take a look in the

mirror one of the keys to dealing with difficult people is making sure you make

time for self-care find something you enjoy and do it and this can be

different for everyone relentless positivity isn't necessarily

though as dr. Strauss describes some situations suck and that needs to be

acknowledged I think if people could accept their situations as is and be

more factual about them then after they will be able to see the light at the end

of the tunnel for example getting a flat tire on the way to an important meeting

isn't a fun situation but if you acknowledge it manage yourself to

de-stress and find a way to fix the tire and then reschedule your meeting it will

help you later to see the positive of the situation after the fact you can say

okay that wasn't so bad and at least no one was hurt and everything worked out

so what are your thoughts be sure to comment below and visit dr. Strauss's

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