When you were a kid,

當你還是小孩時

making friends was a little easier than it is now.

交朋友比現在容易多了

Do you wanna be my friend?

你可以跟我當朋友嗎？

[Narrator] It was, step one,

(旁白) 小孩子交朋友第一步

be within a 14 foot radius of another kid.

站到另一個小孩半徑 14 英尺內

Step two, done.

第二步，完成

But now you're a full-grown person.

但你現在已經長大成人

All your friends have moved away,

你的朋友都搬走了

or you have, to pursue a career.

或你必須找工作

Or for whatever reason, you have no friends,

或不論什麼原因，你就是沒有朋友

which is precisely the case for Samantha here.

這完全就是 Samantha 的狀況

Whoa wait, I do have some friends.

欸，我還是有些朋友好嗎？

[Narrator] See?

(旁白) 看吧？

- No friends. - No, I do.

- 她沒有朋友 - 才不是

[Narrator] Let's get started.

(旁白) 我們開始吧

Here's what you'll need.

以下是你需要的

Something to write with, something to write on,

寫東西用的紙筆

and possibly two of the same shirts.

兩件一樣的衣服

Step one.

第一步

Make a list of the things you like to do.

列下你喜歡做的事

Activities, hobbies, interests,

活動、嗜好，和興趣

write 'em all down and then...

全部寫下來，然後

Samantha, I didn't know you like to paint.

Samantha，我不知道你喜歡畫畫

Yeah, acrylics mostly.

對啊，我大部分用壓克力

- [Narrator] Oh hell yeah, girl.

- (旁白) 好喔，女孩

I'm actually an artist myself, see?

我本身其實是位藝術家

- Oh, that's amazing.

- 噢，太棒了

- [Narrator] Oh thank you.

- (旁白) 謝啦

I love turtles.

我喜歡烏龜

[Narrator] No, no that's a self portrait.

(旁白) 不、不 ，這是幅自畫像

Pick out the activities that can be done in group settings.

選出一項能在群體中進行的活動

Step two, do those things.

第二步，進行那項活動

Doing stuff you're into is a surefire way

做你有興趣的事情來認識

to meet people you already have things in common with.

擁有共同嗜好的人們是最可靠的方法

Though it can be scary for some of us,

雖然有時候可能有點嚇人

especially Samantha, who gets super sweaty

特別是 Samantha，一個只要緊張就會

when she's nervous, it's pretty gross actually.

滿身大汗的人，其實那個畫面滿噁的

Actually I'm doing pretty good right now.

我現在已經不會這樣了

[Narrator] You'll be fine.

(旁白) 安啦

Just don't think about how awkward you're going to be

只要不去想你會有多尷尬

or the fact that everyone is staring at you

或事實上，大家都盯著你看

because you've been standing in the doorway

你正站在門口

talking to a voice in your head.

和你腦中的聲音說話

Good thing you brought that extra shirt.

幸好你有多帶一件衣服

Step three.

第三步

Make small talk.

開始閒聊

I know it sucks, but it's a necessary evil.

我知道這感覺很糟，但這是不得不做的事

You might not hit it off with everyone you talk to.

你可能無法跟每個聊到天的人一拍即合

But trying is the only way

但嘗試是唯一的方法

to find someone you do connect with.

找到跟你有共鳴的人

Oh my gosh, I love that.

天啊，我喜歡這個

I actually have a friend

我有個朋友

who's really good at painting turtles too.

也很會畫烏龜

It's not a turtle.

這不是烏龜啊

I'm just kidding.

開玩笑啦

Are you kidding?

你在開玩笑嗎？

Yeah, it's a turtle.

這是烏龜啦

It's so good.

畫得真好

[Narrator] Excellent, and now as you're getting

(旁白) 太好了，現在你開始

to know them, you're probably going to ask the usual...

認識他們了，你可能會問一些常見的問題

So what do you do?

你是做什麼的？

Where are you from?

你來自哪裡？

[Narrator] But I recommend something like,

(旁白) 但我推薦你試試

So what's been the best part of your week?

你一周最棒的時刻是什麼？

[Narrator] This can spark more interesting conversation

(旁白) 這可以激發更多有趣的對話

and elevate the small talk to regular size.

把閒聊提升到正常對話

Just remember to play it by ear.

要記得看情況

You don't wanna move too fast.

你不會想進展太快

I like you.

我喜歡你

Let's be friends.

我們當朋友吧

[Narrator] But don't play it too cool either.

(旁白) 但也不要裝冷漠

We should hang out sometime.

我們應該一起出去玩！

Yeah, maybe when my schedule clears up.

好喔，等我事情做完的時候

[Narrator] Basically, just be yourself.

(旁白) 基本上，做自己就好了

You've been subconsciously collecting good friend data your whole life.

淺意識中，你這一生會蒐集各種好友資料庫

So if something feels right, give it a shot.

所以感覺對了，就勇敢一試

Which brings us to step four.

我們來到第四步

Be a great friend.

做一個好的朋友

Making new friends can be intimidating.

交新朋友可能令人緊張

But what's on the other side is worth the effort.

但得到的結果會讓努力值得

Just remember that friendships aren't found,

只要記得友誼不是一找到就建立

they're formed.

而是慢慢形成的

So be patient, present, and the kind of friend

所以要有耐心、陪伴在朋友左右，成為那種

you want to have.

你也會想交的朋友

So do nice things every once in a while.

時不時做些好事

Like giving them your last piece of gum.

像給他們你的最後一片口香糖

Unless of course, you need it more.

除非你更需要它

It may seem weird, but it's these little moments

這麼說可能很奇怪，這些片刻

that define true friendship.

會定義真正的友誼

When you can look at each other and say,

當你可以看著對方說

you have some stuff on your face.

你臉上有東西

And not feel awkward.

而不感到尷尬時

That's when you know it runs deep.

這時你就知道你們感情已變得深厚

So good job, Samantha.

做得好，Samantha

You did it.

你做到了

I hope this helps.

我希望這有幫助

And if you wanna add your own steps or swap out

如果你想增加自己的撇步，或更換

some of mine, that's totally fine,

我的一些步驟，這都沒問題

just know that you're gonna mess it all up

只是你可能會搞砸

and it won't work.

最後失敗

See ya next time.

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