but not to just, like, get shoes;

I knew I wanted to make money

because I wanted to make a difference.

Listen to your gut and your heart,

because, no matter what any expert tells you,

your wisdom inside needs to be paramount.

When I was bartending, I was fully bartending.

Like, I wasn't talking to myself about:

"Oh, my God, I should be dancing right now," or,

"I should be working on my coaching practice."

While I was growing my personal coaching practice,

I kept feeling conflicted because

I didn't want to just be one thing.

Are you guys here because you want to be mediocre?

- [Audience] No.

- Mediocre sucks, does it not?

Don't get taken over by the world's definition of success.

It's like, everything that I've learned

and I've been able to do in my business,

we never know what's going to work.

You should just engage an experience

and actually get your foot in the industry.

That can inform whether or not you should move ahead.

I have been this way, meaning goofy, silly,

since I was very, very little.

You walk around your day, and you're like,

"Wow, I have so many things to do," and I'm like,

"Wait a minute. This is all awesome stuff to do."

- She's an American life coach, motivational speaker,

author, and YouTuber.

She's the owner and creator of Marie Forleo International,

B-School, and MarieTV.

Forbes.com listed her website

as one of the top 100 websites for entrepreneurs.

She's Marie Forleo,

and here are her top ten rules for success.

- You know, my first gig out of college was on Wall Street,

on the New York Stock Exchange, and-

- [Interviewer] This is pre-?

- This is pre-everything.

This is like, just out of college, twenty-one years old,

and I knew one of my drives:

I wanted to be really successful,

but not to just, like, get shoes.

I knew I wanted to make money

because I wanted to make a difference.

I wanted to be able to take care of my family.

I wanted to be able to contribute

to causes that I believe in,

and so I knew, in order to do that,

in my own mind, I was like:

"Well, I want to make a lot of money

and make this stuff happen."

But, when I was on Wall Street,

even though so many people that I worked with-

multi-multi-millionaires, I mean, the money was ridiculous-

while they were financially rich,

they were spiritually bankrupt.

And I felt, like, there was a part of me

that was dying inside, and I said,

"This is not my path. I don't know what my path is,

but I need to leave this because I feel sick."

And so, I think many people feel like that.

You can find yourself a job, and job, and job,

and you want to do a really-

you want to do great work in the world,

you're giving it your best,

but some little voice inside is saying "This isn't me."

- [Interviewer] Right.

- "This isn't me."

And I kept having that voice

until finally I left the corporate world

and started my own business.

- Listen to your gut, and your heart,

because, no matter what any expert tells you,

your wisdom inside needs to be paramount.

It needs to always drive all of your decisions.

Even, you know, when I was first starting out,

I would pay attention to people

that absolutely knew what they were doing.

They were completely ethical, they were smart,

they were good teachers as well.

Sometimes, their advice just didn't sit right with me,

and if I wasn't as secure in my own inner voice,

I might have gone down paths

that wouldn't have been that great.

So, I think it's wonderful to get an education,

it's wonderful to take in experiences,

but never, ever, ever listen to anything other

than what is that true voice within you,

and that takes practice.

- When I was bartending, I was fully bartending.

Like, I wasn't talking to myself about:

"Oh, my God, I should be dancing right now," or,

"I should be working on my coaching practice."

I was just really into bartending,

and, when I was dancing, I was like, you know,

being the best hip-hop teacher/dancer I could possibly be.

When I was being a coach, same kind of thing.

And I think that practice of being fully engaged,

in the thing that you're doing,

conserves a ton of energy,

and that's what most people don't do.

- Part of what was also challenging for me,

when I was starting off as a coach,

was recognizing the truth:

that I didn't just want to be a coach.

I loved writing, I loved hip-hop,

I loved dance, I loved fitness.

There were all these different things

that I was passionate about;

and, while I was growing my personal coaching practice,

I kept feeling conflicted because I didn't want

to just be one thing.

Has anyone ever felt that way?

- [Interviewer laughs.]

- Yeah. So, I would listen to the voices

in my head which were like- and, basically, the voices

in my head were so trained by traditional wisdom

and traditional thoughts about:

"You have to pick a niche. You have to narrow down.

You have to choose one thing and be good for it,

be really good at it, and that's how you'll be known."

And, when I realized that that voice wasn't the voice

that I should listen to, that there was this truth:

that I was this multi-passionate person,

and that living in the present moment,

which Eckhart teaches,

was all about really listening

to your own inner guidance and being in the here and now,

and not stressing so much up here.

That really opened the door for me to say,

"You know what? Screw it.

I'm going to go take dance classes.

I'm going to go learn about this.

I'm going to do all these different things."

And that training, to be in the moment,

and to listen to my own inner guidance,

allowed me to disconnect from all the B.S. voices in my head

that were torturing me.

Torturing me.

- How would you behave if you were the best in the world

at what you do?

How would that change what time you wake up in the morning?

How would that change the food you put in your body?

How would that change the people you hang out with?

How you spend your time throughout the day?

What websites you visit?

Whether or not you work from a schedule?

If you were world class,

and the best in the world at what you do,

how would your behavior change?

It's a really interesting question

that I started asking myself a few years ago,

and, I will tell you, it has changed everything.

It's one of those singular questions;

whether you put it on your screensaver,

you have a little reminder on your cell phone,

you have it on the top of a notebook;

I guarantee you, if you start looking at your world

through this lens, it's going to shift everything.

Now, let me ask you this,

just to back this up a little bit more:

are you guys here because you want to be mediocre?

- [Audience] No.

- Mediocre sucks, does it not?

- [Audience] Yes!

- We want to be world-class.

We want to be the best, and let me ask you this:

who's in charge of you being the best in the world?

Yes? Can I hear an "I am?"

- [Audience] I am.

- A little louder?

- [Audience] I AM.

- One more?

- [Audience] I AM!

- Amen, and it's not even a Sunday. Okay, good.

- If you had to give someone who's recently graduating

from our program a piece of advice,

what would you say?

- I would say to learn and to execute on your unique vision.

Define success for yourself.

Figure out what that means to you.

Don't get taken over by the world's definition of success,

or your family's, or what your friends are doing,

or what anyone says that equals success.

Once you can get clear on that vision,

then you need to create a plan to make that come to life,

and to prioritize.

I think one of the biggest tragedies of our time is:

I hear so many people from every walk of life,

health coaches, all over,

feeling so overwhelmed, and overworked,

and there's so much that they can do,

that they feel paralyzed.

"Well, I don't know what to do first,"

"How do I make all of this happen,"

and I think that we all need

to take a few steps back and start to get clear

on our own vision for success,

and then actually prioritize making that come to life,

because then it gives you such clarity, and such freedom;

and all of that static and the overwhelm starts

to fall away.

- What if I actually follow my heart,

and I don't make a living at it?

All my friends say, "You suck. See, I told you so?"

Eckhart actually talked about when, he was moving once,

his parents said, "Really? You're going to do this again?"

Like, they'd seen him as a failure for years,

and then- anyways. There's that, always that voice,

that's like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah,"

but you might just really fail.

- Yeah, and, you know, I think all of us have that,

and there's perhaps some of them, like a myth,

that many of us can think,

especially when we're first starting out,

that successful people don't have the voice anymore.

That's total crap.

Anyone that you've ever seen, anyone that I've encountered,

and I've had the opportunity to interview

a lot of people and talk to them;

no matter how successful, how accomplished,

how well-known, they still have those voices of self-doubt.

They still get afraid.

They still question:

"Am I going in the right direction?

What's next for me?"

And, I think, the more that we can recognize that

that voice of, basically, "You suck," is universal,

and we can disengage from that and actually engage

with what we want in our lives,

the happier we're going to be.

And, this is the other thing: none of us know.

It's like, everything that I've learned

and I've been able to do in my business,

we never know what's going to work.

We treat every single thing as an experiment.

That's the only way that you learn.

I think 99% of what each of us

need to do to learn and grow,

not only as businesspeople,

but also as human beings, if we're going to grow,

it means that we've never done that before.

It's going to be uncomfortable.

And, to be okay in that uncertainty and that discomfort,

is where the juice of life lives.

- I really went into pursuing different passions