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  • - Hi we're Joel and Lia.

  • - And today is another episode of

  • Ask yourself,

  • which is our series where Joel and Lia go deep.

  • - Yeah.

  • - So,

  • (laughing)

  • It feels weird saying that.

  • - I've got itchy nose.

  • - Itchy mitchy.

  • - Itchy mitchy.

  • And yes, if you've noticed my voice is weird,

  • it's caused I've got acute briconters, broconters,

  • - Bronchitis!

  • What is broconters?

  • - Briconters

  • (laughing)

  • I've got broconters. I've got bronchitis.

  • - You're such a prince.

  • Joel in his Disney prince cottage in the Cotsworld,

  • being like, I've got acute bicohonters.

  • - Bicohonters. I've got acute pocahontas.

  • - That's so sweet.

  • - Anyway, I've got acute bronchitis so that's that.

  • - Yeah, when you go to the doctors next week,

  • please say it wrong,

  • - Yeah, I will.

  • - That will be amazing.

  • - I've diagnosed myself with pocahontas.

  • - Then just do a little cough.

  • For anyone who saw the last episode of this,

  • we finish every episode with the first question from

  • this episode. So,

  • - Which was,

  • - Do you prefer being around men or women?

  • Do your closest friends tend to be men or women

  • so is that all in one go?

  • - Interesting.

  • - Well, what do you think?

  • - I prefer being around

  • men, I think.

  • - Really?

  • - I have a few female friends and I treasure them like

  • when I find a female that gets on , we get on with each

  • other really well, finding each other really funny,

  • it's just like winner winner, chicken dinner. But,

  • I just don't really have many.

  • - No?

  • - No. I've got, I got female cousins, and family members

  • that I love being around but in general,

  • I'd say most of my friends are men.

  • - Yeah, yeah?

  • It's interesting I think it might, it could be our

  • generation as well because most of my close friends

  • are girls.

  • And again, when you meet a guy, someone of the same

  • sex as you that you get along with so well is like

  • amazing and you can't replace those relationships, but

  • there's something being around women,

  • I just find it more relaxing, like if you've put me in

  • a room with loads of women, I'll be like,

  • they're all gonna love me within like 5 minutes,

  • like they're gonna love me.

  • Whereas if you've put me in a room full of men

  • for 5 minutes, I'm like, they're all gonna hate me.

  • They're literally all gonna hate me.

  • - And I think that because that is an ingrained thing

  • in your mind, you now believe that that is what's true

  • moving forward.

  • And I kind of have left my, in the same for me, as well,

  • I'm like, me and women, like I just don't have many

  • female friends and that's why I don't have any

  • many more female friends cause I've said it to myself

  • so many times.

  • - Exactly, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

  • all the time.

  • I think also for me being bullied at school,

  • it was always by the boys and a few girls,

  • but mainly boys so then I'm just always like,

  • yeah, they're just gonna hate me and they're just

  • gonna bully me so.

  • - It makes so much sense like, of course that,

  • that because that has happened, you're like, you know,

  • closer with girls.

  • - But you know what? It used to really bother me,

  • I was like, why do I have so many friends are girls

  • and not guys, but actually now, I'm just like,

  • I don't care like, I don't care if they're boy, girl,

  • whatever you're identified with, I'm like,

  • as long as I like you and you're a nice person

  • and you make me laugh, that's fine.

  • - That is so true, love that.

  • Okay, I think I wanna skip the next one,

  • - Okay, shall I read the next one?

  • - Yeah you go on

  • - So we'll skip that one.

  • Oh, okay, this is a long one so buckle up.

  • - Okay.

  • - Right, while on a trip to another city your spouse

  • or lover

  • whether you put a ring on it or not.

  • - In brackets, or lover.

  • - Meets and spends the night with an exciting stranger.

  • Given that they will never meet again

  • and that you will not otherwise learn of the incident,

  • would you want your partner to tell you about it,

  • and it roles were reversed, would you reveal what you

  • have done?

  • - Oh my gosh.

  • - I wanna know it all, I think I'd wanna know. Wouldn't you?

  • - I wouldn't wanna know.

  • - You wouldn't?

  • - Not want to know, no, I don't wanna know.

  • - So yeah your partner might never see those people again,

  • - Yeah.

  • - But it says something about their personality and

  • their character the fact that they cheated on you.

  • - Yeah, and I think that, that's their issue,

  • that's their problem that they cheated on me.

  • - Yeah, but do you still wanna be around them for

  • doing that? You still wanna keep someone in your life

  • that did that to you?

  • - I think if, maybe this is really controversial,

  • but I think if they were to deal with their own

  • fears, anxieties and whatever they like have to deal with

  • because they did that,

  • then I'll be willing to stay with them if they were to

  • willing to like learn from it, be a better person,

  • - Yeah, but you don't know any of this.

  • - I know, I think that's also me protecting myself from it,

  • like if they were to do it, and then like, how would I know?

  • Great, I think like ignorance is bliss.

  • I'd rather not know.

  • - I'd rather the bliss was ruined and that relationship

  • ended and then move on with someone else,

  • I just think it's unforgivable.

  • I would never, ever forgive anyone that ever cheated

  • on me.

  • - That's good, yeah, I mean. I think I would, but,

  • I don't think,

  • I'm not saying I have like a partner that would,

  • I really, really, really trust who I'm with but

  • if it was to happen, I just wouldn't wanna know,

  • I know it would bother me,

  • I think it would damage me so, so much,

  • but if I was to know, I would obviously end it.

  • But I think if I wanted to stay in something and have it

  • like a strong forever, I would rather not know.

  • How funny that we're just, I just would rather not know,

  • but I would want that person to go and deal with their,

  • do you know what I mean, I look after my half,

  • you look after your half.

  • Together we're great but you've done something

  • and you've messed up,

  • - Yeah

  • - I'd rather not know.

  • - Wow, interesting. Would you tell if you'd done it?

  • Would you tell or would you keep a secret?

  • - Yeah, I would tell because I think if it was my beef,

  • I'd have to end that relationship.

  • - See I think, we're completely different,

  • cause now I think I would probably keep it a secret,

  • after what I've said like, I'll never forgive anyone,

  • I'll be like, I'll just keep it a secret.

  • If I'm never gonna see them ever again, and I'm like,

  • I don't wanna ruin what I've got,

  • I'd probably would just be like,

  • I'm not gonna say anything, which is really hypocritical.

  • - You know it's true though because I see where you're

  • coming from because what good will it do to that person

  • to know?

  • Like what good would I do to my partner to inflict this

  • information on them that's gonna probably ruin their life.

  • - I know.

  • - If they were that into me.

  • - Yeah.

  • - It's so tough, what do you guys think? Let us know.

  • If I'm not sort of Joel's

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  • - Okay, are there people you envy enough to want to

  • trade lives with them? Who are they?

  • Are there people you envy enough to want to trade

  • lives with them?

  • - Definitely people I envy and like I'm jealous of

  • what they've got in their life and but,

  • yeah I'd never wanna trade lives because I'd wanna

  • be me in their position, I wouldn't ever wanna just

  • be them.

  • - Yeah, I agree.

  • There's only one Joel Wood, and that's you.

  • There's only one, there's only one person with these

  • fingerprints and that's me.

  • - And that's me.

  • - Yeah, and I also like, I think a lot of envy or

  • jealousy comes from like, other people's achievements

  • or other people stuff that they've like smashed it,

  • but surely so much of that is from experiencing it

  • yourself.

  • Do you know what I mean? Like so much like that you gave

  • from that.

  • - That you've worked from it rather than just being

  • given it.

  • - Yeah. Imagine just swapping lives I mean like,

  • Ah, this is amazing like I fly, I'm in a private jet.

  • - Yeah, no exactly.

  • - It's not gonna be fun is it?

  • - Right next one, okay. Sorry, this is really funny.

  • - What is it?

  • - For an all-expense paid one week vacation anywhere

  • in the world, would you be willing to kill a beautiful

  • butterfly by pulling off its wings, what about stepping

  • on a cockroach?

  • Absolutely, of course. I'm sorry butterfly and cockroach

  • but yeah, I would.

  • - That is hilarious.

  • - Isn't that funny?

  • - I mean obviously like when you get the butterfly in

  • your hand, you're gonna be like, oh it's so pretty,

  • like you don't really wanna pull its wings off

  • - But then I'd be, all-expenses holiday

  • - All-expenses, bye.

  • - I've already done that, I know I'm a horrible human

  • being, loads of you are probably gonna unsubscribe

  • because I'm admitting to this, but when I was a child,

  • I used to love catching those flying daddy long legs,

  • you know the ones that are flying spiders almost,

  • I don't know if you call them the same thing,

  • and I used to catch them, pull of their wings,

  • pull off each leg and just leave them as a wriggling

  • body.

  • Awful, isn't that awful?

  • - I can't believe you were one of those kids,

  • only the bullies in my school did that and you aren't

  • a bully.

  • - I've never hurt any animals but insects,

  • I was just like, you deserve to die.

  • Apart from wood lice, I love wood lice.

  • - That's so bizaare.

  • - Isn't it weird? It's so horrible.

  • - Don't like you, you're a spider, you deserve no legs.

  • - Oh I hate spiders.

  • - Okay would you be willing to murder an innocent person

  • if it would end hunger in the world?

  • The classic like

  • - Which is never gonna happen, so why are we discussing it?

  • I don't think I would, I'd feel really guilty.

  • - You can't imagine

  • - Imagine the guilt you'll live with,

  • would ending all the hunger in the world, sort of like,

  • wash away that guilt?

  • - No.

  • - Of killing that person.

  • - No. I wouldn't do that for the greater good.

  • - No.

  • - I'll just be like, let's just leave it as it is.

  • - We came through loads of questions today.

  • - Okay, yeah, we're whizzing through some of them.

  • - So the next question is what was your most enjoyable

  • dream and what is your worst nightmare?

  • So literally what you dream and nightmare about.

  • What is the best and worst?

  • - I struggle to remember my dreams but sometimes I do,

  • but I remember there's a phase where you would literally

  • have a dream almost every night and then the next day

  • tell me what it was.

  • You had so many good dreams that I almost lived my

  • happiness through your dreams like me and Gemma Collins,

  • - I'd wake up and be like Lia, I just dreamt

  • - So we will be like, so we were out in awards ceremony

  • last night and this happened then we met her

  • and we kicked it off and now we're best friends, like,

  • some of those dreams were amazing.

  • - Do you know what I really want to get a book on lucid

  • dreaming because I didn't really know what lucid dreaming

  • was until someone explained it to me, and I was like,

  • oh I do that all the time and they were like,

  • what? That's really rare.

  • - I'm not sure what it is.

  • - So apparently it's where you can control your dreams

  • so you know that you're dreaming, so you're like,

  • oh cause I'm dreaming I can do anything, let's fly,

  • and then you just start flying or you're like,

  • and I do that all the time.

  • Apparently it's a thing to control your subconscious

  • brain.

  • - You did this, used to, I don't know if you still do,

  • where you like, think about something before bed

  • and you know you're gonna have a dream about it.

  • Is that basically lucid dreaming?

  • - I think you can train yourself to do things like that

  • but I never have like,

  • I remember so the nightmares that I used to have,

  • always was someone like following me with like a chainsaw

  • or something like that,

  • and there came a stage where I would realize that I was

  • in a dream.

  • And I'd be like, oh he's following me with a chainsaw,

  • this is just a nightmare,

  • and then I'd find a way to like, I'd find a quiet place

  • wherever it was, if it was in a palace, if I was in a palace

  • or like on the street in London, wherever I was I'd find

  • a quiet place, hug my knees in like that,

  • and then I'd wake up in the night.

  • And I could wake myself up from the nightmare.

  • - That's insane.

  • They should make that, that should be a film.

  • Like about, that's so cool.

  • - Isn't it weird? But then the same for nice dreams,

  • if I want to fly or something, I'm like, oh it's a dream,

  • I can do what I want and then do it.

  • And apparently that's like a skill and I didn't know I had

  • it.

  • - So much control over the dream, no, mine is not like that

  • at all.

  • I've had, I don't know, I just don't remember dreams very

  • well like I remember having one loads when I was a kid,

  • where I would always go downstairs,

  • open up the shoe cupboard and all of the shoes I've ever

  • wanted were in the cupboard.

  • - Balenciagas

  • - Prada, Gucci, the ones that look like socks.

  • And then I would wake up from the dream,

  • run down into the kitchen, open the shoe cupboard,

  • and it would just be the normal shoes that were there,

  • and I'd always be devastated.

  • And I'd open up and be like, Mom, like it's so annoying,

  • like I really wanted all these shoes I just dreamt about.

  • - Cause I remember the first time I had that as well

  • where I dreamt that I had loads of sweets,

  • and I woke up in the morning and they weren't there

  • and I got really upset and that's when I realized

  • that dreams weren't real.

  • - I used to have this dream like before school,

  • that I'd, it was really, really close to waking up,

  • I'd woken up, done my teeth, got ready, got dressed

  • and ready to go, and then I'd wake up.

  • And I'd be like, I'm ready, oh no I'm not ready,

  • I just dreamt that I got ready.

  • - Yeah, that's weird isn't it?

  • - It's so annoying and that has happened loads

  • and I dose to sleep, and then to not to have no time.

  • - Or the relief when you've dreamt something like that

  • and you're really late or forgotten something,

  • and then you wake up and you're like, oh it was,

  • it's so good.

  • But I think you can, it is a skill, I think if you

  • want to dream, you should do some research on it

  • because I think there are things that you can do before

  • bed that can enable you to dream.

  • - That's cool. Imagine if we went to like a Dreams

  • Specialist and they're like put stickers on us and

  • stickers and everything, stickers all over our heads

  • and we're like,

  • - I do believe dreams mean stuff though, so like,

  • I will go, one of my friends is really good at knowing

  • what dreams mean or like interpreting what they could mean.

  • So I often go to her if I had a really weird dream,

  • and I'm like, I dreamt this, what does it mean?

  • And she's like, I think it means this.

  • - Yeah, Dad does that. He's like, did you dream about

  • ...that means death.

  • If you dreamt about falling, that means a certain thing,

  • like, so I would be like, Dad, I had a dream about falling,

  • and he'd say, ah that means this, this and this.

  • Don't know, it's interesting though,

  • I'm interested in dreams.

  • - I've got one more story about that as well,

  • - Also got a really funny one, remember when you had

  • a go at me, you were like,

  • Oh Lia, last night we were talking about (whispers),

  • and then I had a dream about him.

  • - Did you and you're like why did you give me that dream?

  • - Exactly.

  • - Yeah, that's the worst.

  • Now I had a dream once where, so before RADA,

  • which is a Drama School, where me and Lia met,

  • I woke up on the day of my results being released

  • from College how I did my A-levels,

  • and I was supposed to be going to University

  • to study Drama, and I had a dream that I didn't get in.

  • I remember sitting at the screen and it said like,

  • you didn't get the results, you didn't get in.

  • And I was like, and then suddenly my dream took me

  • somewhere to a Drama School, but I think it was,

  • in my head it was GSA, and as I was walking around

  • the Drama School and it was like me attending Drama School.

  • Anyway, woke up, it was a dire result so I was like,

  • that was a weird dream, went downstairs, checked my results,

  • failed, didn't get in and then fast forward a year later,

  • I was at Drama School, not at GSA but at RADA,

  • and I was like, that's weird that I dreamt the exact thing

  • that happened.

  • - I love saying it in a Geordie accent, that's weird,

  • that is weird. I was bad but, that's weird.

  • I'm nervous by that,

  • that's weird.

  • - We keep saying and if you've watched our Bambino Becky

  • collab, like we started a video with her going,

  • I'm nervous, it's that one when we're nervous, I'm nervous.

  • So good.

  • - Right, I think that's enough for this episode.

  • Come back next time guys because we love doing this,

  • and if you haven't seen the old ones,

  • we would link them up in the cards so you check those out,

  • go back and watch them.

  • - They're often titled not with Ask Yourself or Going Deep

  • with Joel and Lia, they're titled like the juiciest thing

  • that came up in the talks.

  • So if you find a weird title, it's probably one of these.

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