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  • It's popular relieved that long-distance relationships never work out

  • But sometimes absence does make the heart grow fonder and people learn to take their partners less for granted when they're not always around

  • It's also worth noting that some couples far away from each other feel closer than couples who live with each other

  • Because they're more willing to communicate their problems with one another. It all boils down to one word: Effort.

  • Here's six tips on maintaining long-distance relationships

  • 1. Give them a personal gift to hold on to.

  • Before the two of you depart give each other something you can hold on to and remember one another by

  • A few examples you may be inspired by include exchanging nightlights, stuffed animals, jewelry, hoodies or mugs

  • What you decide to give your partner doesn't have to be big or expensive

  • Instead focus on how the object has served to bring meaning into your life.

  • 2. Set routines and learn about each other's schedules.

  • Time zones can be tricky, but learn to appreciate the differences. This can teach you the value of patience and remind you that

  • relationships don't thrive or grow from moments of instant gratification

  • Once you and your partner gets settled in and adjust to your new lifestyles, let each other know about your schedules and routines

  • Depending on how much of a difference your time zone is

  • You may need to take turns accommodating to each other's availability to set up Skype dates or phone calls

  • It may sound daunting

  • But once the two of you figure out a rhythm that works for the both of you the rest will set sail.

  • 3. Build trust and try not to jump to conclusions or assume the worst. Life can be unpredictable.

  • So sometimes things come up such as family emergencies, working overtime or illness that may interrupt your usual communication patterns

  • rather than worrying about whether your partner is cheating on you or if they've grown bored of the

  • relationship and may be spending more time with their friends know that there's no actual proof or evidence to back up those anxious thoughts.

  • Build trust with your partner and ask each other how you're feeling, rather than bottling up insecurity and making the walls bigger

  • Getting answers directly from your partner is better than over analyzing and filling in those gaps yourself.

  • 4. It's not about how often you talk to each other, instead, focus on quality communication.

  • Consistent communication is important when the two of you are apart from each other, especially when the physical aspect of the relationship is absent

  • But too much of it can also backfire and leave the two of you feeling smothered or burnt out

  • rather than texting each other every hour of the day, find balance and moderation and focus on the quality of your

  • conversations instead of how frequently the two of you talk

  • You may come to find that the more you talk to each other the more you end up talking about the same things in circles

  • Rather than delving into a meaningful conversation that makes you appreciate each other's intellect ideas and perspectives.

  • 5. Make time to see each other, but know that every visit may not be ideal, and that's ok.

  • When you visit each other you may want to make the best out of your time together and plan to do exciting things

  • But we're all human so allow room for flexibility instead of perfection

  • There may be times when you're exhausted from traveling back and forth and just want to stay in and watch a movie with your partner

  • Or perhaps there's a delay in your flight that may bleed into your dinner reservations

  • Doing fun activities and bonding with your partner is important but sometimes it's good to just play things by ear and go with the flow

  • Remember it's about the company you're with and not necessarily what the two of you do

  • 6. Embrace the challenges together.

  • Long distance relationships are difficult, but don't let the challenges tear you apart

  • Instead embrace them together

  • Sometimes your insecurities may get the best of you

  • Consequently, you may believe the two of you would be better off breaking up and meeting new people

  • Take a step back and think about why you held on for so long in the first place

  • Whether the two of you are apart because you're going to different schools or because of a job promotion

  • know that the long distance is only temporary and that you're working on yourselves before the two of you can be together again

  • It's a common misconception to think that in order for relationships to work

  • One person has to sacrifice their needs and desires for the other

  • In reality, this is how relationships often break apart when people feel stifled and can't grow together

  • Never lose sight of the big picture and don't give up!

  • Have you ever been or are currently in a long-distance relationship?

  • Do you have some tips on how to deal with one?

  • Feel for to share your thoughts in the comments below

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It's popular relieved that long-distance relationships never work out

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