Did you know that spicy foods actually increase your sex drive?

你知道辣的食物其實會提高你的性慾嗎？

That they wake up your libido

它會喚醒你的性慾，

and actually cause you to become more lustful as a result?

導致你會變得很想要。

And did you know that if you are a man and you masturbate enough,

那你知道一位經常自慰的男生

you can actually become infertile?

會導致沒有生育力。

Not only that, but it can cause a slow degenerative condition

不只這樣，它還會慢慢了老化

that not only affects the man but any offspring that he has as well.

那還不只影響自己，連後代也會跟著影響。

And did you know that too much self-loving

你知道過度的自我撫愛

can actually cause you to grow hair on the palms of your hands?

會讓你的手掌上長毛？

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Everyone will know what you do with your spare time.

我們都知道你獨處的時候都在做什麼。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

OK, everything I just told you was a lie.

好的，剛剛所說的都是騙人的。

(Cheering)

(歡呼聲)

Thank God!

感謝主！

But it was not that long ago when people used to believe these things.

但在不久以前，有人相信這些事

And many still do.

至今許多人還是相信。

So today I am talking to you about masturbation myths.

所以我今天要來談談自慰的迷思

So we can uncover some of today's most perpetuated falsehoods

我們也會揭露這延續已久的錯誤

and unearth some from the past

把影響我們至今現實生活

that have actually come to shape our present-day reality.

的觀念公諸於世

For example -

例如

unsweetened Kellogg's cornflakes

Kellogg 的無糖的玉米片

were developed by Dr. John Harvey Kellogg.

是由 Dr. John Harvey Kellogg 所研發的。

See, he was an anti-masturbation crusader.

他是反自慰的改革者。

He believed, as did many people at the time,

在當時，他與多數人都相信

that spicy foods led to lust, and lust led to masturbation,

辣的食物會產生慾望，慾望會促使自慰的行為

and masturbation led to a whole host of horrible things.

自慰會導致須多恐怖的事情。

So, he developed this diet that was bland in flavour

所以他發明這種淡無味的飲食

to hopefully decrease the chances of masturbation.

希望能降低自慰的機率。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

It was actually his brother Will that added sugar to the flakes

但其實是他的哥哥 Will 在玉米片上市之前

and marketed them as a breakfast cereal before they took off.

在裏頭偷加了糖。

The Graham Cracker actually has a similar past.

Graham 的全麥餅乾也有類似的故事。

Sylvester Graham was a minister and anti-masturbation crusader,

Sylvester Graham 當時是一位部長，同時也是位反自慰的改革人士

and he developed the Graham Cracker, as well,

他也發明了淡無味的全麥餅乾，

as part of a bland diet in order to decrease masturbation.

為了也是要降低自慰發生率。

If he only knew what we did with S'mores.

如果他知道我們是這樣吃全麥餅乾的話 (棉花糖夾心)。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Now, it wasn't just these two men

但當時不只有這兩位

campaigning against the evils of masturbation.

在反對這邪惡的自慰。

In fact, most health care professionals at the time, and health manuals,

事實上，當時保健專業人士與健康手冊

believed the same thing.

都相信同樣的事情。

So, now it is easy for us to snicker at this

想到這些人以前會去相信

and think how naive and ignorant these people must have been

這樣的事情，好天真無邪

to believe such silly things.

就會想要想要笑一下。

Because of course, we have evolved leaps and bounds

也因為如此，我們已經跳脫了上一個世代

out of our grandparents' generation of sexual shaming.

對性方面的羞愧感。

We know our facts.

我們非常了解自己，

I mean, we are part of movements like legalising gay marriage,

我們都有參與同性婚姻合法活動，

and improving our sex education in our school systems,

強化學校對性教育的實施，

and increasing our 'clitoracy'

透過「陰道獨白」這部影集

through things like 'The Vagina Monologues'.

提升我們對性別的解讀能力。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

We know our facts.

我們了解我們自己

Or do we?

或者我們有嗎？

There is actually still a lot of falsehood around masturbation today.

至今，對自慰還其實是有錯誤的看法。

You see, as a sex therapist,

身為性自療師

I get to meet and talk with a whole host of different people.

我可以與許多不同的人見面聊天，

It is actually quite a unique opportunity

他其實是個特殊的機會。

Because people come to me

因為他們們來找我

and they tell me their innermost thoughts and feelings,

訴說他們內心深處的想法、感受

their desires, their fears, their anxieties, their wishes -

他們的慾望、恐懼、焦慮、願望

everything.

以及所有的事情。

And over time, you start to notice patterns.

屢次之後，你會發現到有固定模式。

So, for example:

例如

Women will often come to me because they have not been able to have an orgasm.

未能享受高潮的女性，他們會經常來找我。

Now, being preorgasmic could stem from a whole host of different things,

她們的狀況可能是有很多不同因素所造成的，

but one trend I often see

但我經常看到一個現象

is that many women still feel so much shame around self-pleasuring,

是女生通常對自我歡愉、自慰

around masturbation, that they do not do it.

感到羞愧，不敢嘗試。

Therefore, they're relying on their partner

因此依賴著另一半

as their only means to orgasm attainment.

當作唯一的方式，來達成高潮這件事。

But they have no roadmap for their body.

但她們不曉得要如何探索自己的身體。

With men, I often see a different trend.

對於男性，我看到的是不同的現象。

Where maybe -

可能或許是

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

stay with me on this -

聽我說完

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

maybe they have relied on masturbation

或許他們一直以來依賴著自慰

as their sole means for orgasm attainment for so long

把當作是高潮唯一的方式

that this has created adverse patterns.

因此產生這顛倒的現象。

Now, regardless if the client is a male or a female,

不論我的客戶是男性是女性，

looking at the issues surrounding masturbation

面對這圍繞著自慰的議題，

and how that ties to the presenting sexual issue

它又與現階段的性議題息息相關，

is extremely important to recognize.

因此，對它的認知是非常重要的。

So today, I thought we'd address masturbation myths,

今天，我以為我們的主題是會講到

as our mistaken beliefs will have a trickle-down effect on future generations

我們錯誤的信念是會影響到下一代

and contribute to many sexuality based issues that I see today.

以及它至今為止所帶來的性方面問題。

So, let's do a little fact-or-fiction with our favourite pastime, shall we?

我們來玩個『事實還是虛構』的遊戲，好嗎？

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Women who rely on vibrators or toys to masturbate

依靠著按摩棒與情趣用品自慰的女性

will not be able to have an orgasm with her partner during sex.

無法在與另一伴做愛時達到高潮。

They will become dependent on it.

她們變成不能沒有這些性玩具。

That is fiction, yes.

沒錯，這是虛構。

So,

那

some women do like more intense, direct stimulation on the clitoral hood,

有些女性喜歡在陰蒂上那一種強烈的震動感

which a vibrator will provide more so than a penis, yes,

所以以按摩棒就打趴男性陰莖，是的

but that does not cause an inability to reach orgasm by other means.

但不意味著無法透過別的方式達到高潮。

In fact, research shows that women who take their time to self-explore

事實上，研究顯示平時有在自慰、

and learn about their body through masturbation

自我探索與了解自己身體的女性，

are more likely to attain an orgasm with a partner

相較那些平時沒有在做的

than those who do not.

更容易與另一半達到高潮。

Alright, fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Those in dating relationships are more likely to masturbate

在交往中的人自慰的機率

than those who are single.

比單身的人還要高。

That is a fact.

這是事實。

So, those in relationships are more likely or just as likely to masturbate

所以，交往中的人比單身的人

than those who are single.

還有可能想要自慰。

Not only that, but homosexual behavior is associated with a higher degree,

不只如此，同性戀的行為與自慰頻率多寡

or a higher frequency of masturbation.

息息相關。

Men masturbate more than women,

男性自慰多過於女性，

older people less than younger people,

老人自慰少過於年輕人，

African-Americans less than other groups,

非洲裔美國人自慰少過於其他族群，

non-religious more so than Christians,

沒有信仰的人自慰多過於基督徒，

and the more educated you are,

書讀得比較多的人，

the more likely it is that you will masturbate.

更有可能會自慰。

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

I think she's reading Fifty Shades of Grey.

我覺得她在看格雷的五十道陰影。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Women - fact.

事實

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Women generally masturbate by inserting objects into the vagina;

女性自慰通常是塞東西進去

therefore, simulating penetrative sex.

因此是滲透性行為。

That was a quick one.

那是個快節奏。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Fiction, yes.

虛構，是的。

Some women do masturbate in this fashion,

有些虛構故事的女性是這樣自慰的，

and that is fine and completely normal.

這還算好，算是是正常。

However, it is far more likely for women to masturbate

但是更有可能的是女性會用

by using clitoral stimulation, or the stimulation of the clitoral hood.

陰蒂刺激，或者是能夠刺激陰蒂的方式來自慰。

The clitoris is actually a very interesting little body part.

陰蒂是身體非常有趣的一個部分。

It is not merely a little button that's hidden away,

不僅僅是一個隱藏的小按鈕

you know, we say, look for the little man in the canoe.

你知道的，我們說它是獨木舟上的小男人。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

It is actually a fairly large internal organ,

它其實是非常大的一個內部器官

and it is the only body part that exists solely for pleasure.

而且這器官是只有為了愉悅而存在的。

The clitoris is estimated to be between 9 and 12 centimeters long

陰蒂估計有 9 -12 公分長

and 6 centimeters wide.

6 公分寬。

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Early childhood masturbation is abnormal

兒童時期的自慰是正常

and may mean that your child is hypersexual.

也意味著你的小孩性向正常。

Well done.

非常好。

Fiction.

虛構。

So, children learn very early on what feels good

所以，小孩在初期，摸自己身體的時候

when they touch their bodies, both male and female.

就知道舒服的感覺是什麼，包括男性與女性。

So, early childhood masturbation, well before puberty,

所以，孩童的初期自慰，在青期前

even into infancy, is actually quite normal.

甚至是嬰兒期，都算是正常。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

This man looks very worried.

這位男生看起來非常擔憂。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Too much masturbation can cause adverse health risks.

過度的自慰會不利於身體的健康。

That is fiction.

這是虛構。

So, the only health risk associated with too much masturbation

唯一跟自慰有關的健康風險

would be allergic reactions due to lubricants,

會是對潤滑液的過敏反應，

infections due to unwashed toys,

情趣用品沒清洗的感染，

or just skin irritations in general.

或是一般的皮膚發炎。

Masturbation is actually the ultimate form of safe sex

自慰其實是個非常安全的性行為

and masturbation -

自慰

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

fact! -

事實！

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

masturbation resulting in orgasm

自慰來的高潮

actually carries with it a plethora of positive health benefits.

可以帶來很多健康上的益處。

It alleviates headaches, it decreases stress, it is a sleep aid,

它可以減輕頭痛、降低壓力、有助於睡眠，

and it actually improves your immune functioning.

還能改善你的免疫功能。

And women who masturbate during their period

女性在月經來的期間自慰

can actually alleviate menstrual cramps.

可以舒緩經痛的問題。

It is estimated that about 95% of men and 89% of women

估計 95% 的男性與 89% 的女性

have masturbated at some time in their life.

在他們的一生中曾經都有過自慰。

So, masturbating, for both sexes, every day even,

所以每天的自慰，對於兩性都是

is normal and healthy.

很正常很健康的。

So, the only adverse health risk that might be associated with it

所以，只有當你過度自慰時

is if you are masturbating so much

才會影響到健康，

that you stop going to work, let's say,

像是影響到你無法去工作

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

or it is impeding your daily functioning and social responsibilities,

或是它影響到你的日常作息與你的社會責任

then it may be an issue -

就會是是個問題

and you should come and see me.

那你就得要來找我。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Masturbation will not impede your stamina

自慰並不會阻擾你的體力

or affect your performance

或是影響你比賽或是健身前

before a big game or workout.

的表現。

That is a fact.

那是事實。

So as I already said,

所以就像我說的，

masturbation carries with it a plethora of positive health benefits,

自慰帶來許多正面的健康益處

so it actually may be beneficial to you rather than harmful.

其實對你只有好處沒有壞處。

Again, the only thing that could cause you problems

再次，唯一會造成你的問題的只有

is if you are masturbating to the point of exhaustion.

當你自慰到疲憊程度的時候。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

But then, that would be true for any activity

但任何活動都一樣，對某部分的肌肉重複的使用

where you are repeatedly using the same muscles over and over again.

的確是如此。

Alright, last one.

好了，最後一個。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

Now, this is a very common one I get.

現在這個是我最常遇到的。

Fact or fiction?

事實還是虛構？

Masturbation causes premature ejaculation and erectile disfunction.

自慰會造成早洩與不舉的問題。

You are all quieter on this one, I see.

這一題大家變得好安靜。

(Laughter)

(笑聲)

That is fiction.

這是虛構。

Now, this is a very complicated issue.

這是一個非常複雜的問題。

So, the general act of masturbation does not cause erectile dysfunction;

一般的自慰行為並沒有造成勃起障礙

however, it may be helpful to think of it in terms of a sports analogy.

如果我們用運動的對比來思考，或許會有幫助。

So, let's say you are a professional athlete.

假設你是位專業運動員。

During practice, you are sloughing off, you are not trying hard during the drills,

在練習的過中，你一直偷懶，沒有認真的去練習

just not being an overall good player.

你不是一位稱職的選手。

Now, when you get into a game-time situation,

當你來到比賽的狀況時，

you are not going to play like a pro.

你沒辦法出專業的水準。

Why?

為什麼？

Because you practice like you play.

因為你把比賽當做練習。

So, you have to think of masturbation in the same way.

所以你要把自慰當作是同一件事情來想。

Masturbation is the practice; partnered sex is the play.

自慰是練習，與另一半辦事時則是比賽。

So, for example

例如

Let's say, as a man, every single time you masturbate,

比方說，身為男性，每一次自慰時，

you only give yourself a few minutes from first touch to ejaculation.

從自摸的那一刻到射出，你只給自己幾分鐘的時間。

That may condition you to those few minutes.

那會使的你處於只有幾分鐘的狀態

So, when you are with a partner and you want to last longer,

所以與另一半辦事時，你想要能夠持久

that may create problems for you.

就會有問題。

Or let's say, you watch the same type of visual stimuli,

比方說，看個同類型的視覺刺激物，

let's say foot-fetish pornography, for instance.

例如戀足系列的成人影片。

And then you are with a partner who hates their feet,

然後你的另一伴討厭自己的腳

does not want you anywhere near them.

並不想你靠近它。

That could create psychological arousal problems for you.

那會造成你心理上的性致短缺。

So now, again, I am not saying it's a cause and effect.

再次，我沒有說它是個因果關係。

What I am stressing is the importance of making your practice and your play

我想強調的是練習的重要性，把它當作是比賽一樣

as similar as possible,

練好練滿，

just like anything in life that you want to be good at.

就像人生中的任何事一樣，只要我們想要變的優秀。

So now, I can stand up here

所以我能夠站在這

and do the fact versus fiction battle all day,

陪你們玩一整天的事實還是虛構。

but perhaps the catalyst for change isn't just in the education

或許這改變的關鍵還沒有出現在教育裡

but on a shift in perspective.

但在觀念上已經開始轉變。

Now,

現在

there is few people in North America, today at least,

有幾位北美洲人，至少今天

campaigning against the evils of masturbation

是在反對這邪惡的自慰

like Kellogg and Sylvester Graham used to do.

像是 Kellogg 與 Sylvester Graham 以前一樣。

However, there is still a lot of negativity around this one word

然而這個字或是這個行為在當今的社位

or this one behavior that we have in our society today.

有許多負面的意義。

So, if we think of all this negativity around this one thing,

所以如果我們也是這樣想的話，

how do we break free of this perpetual cycle of fear-based myths?

我們要如何擺脫這不斷循環畏懼的迷思？