I have four boys.

我有四個兒子。

My sons will tell you, I'm always like, "clean up!"

我的兒子們會告訴你，我平常對待他們的方式就像：「快去打掃乾淨！」

"Do your chores!"

「快去做家事！」

"Get it clean!"

「保持整潔！」

You know, you're investing, you're talking, you're teaching, you're training.

這麼做都是為了教導和訓練他們。

As a dad, sometimes you can forget you're just training.

身為一位父親，有時很容易忘記自己是在訓練孩子們。

You're planting the seed now, and you're gonna see it eight years later.

你現在在他們心中所灌輸的正確觀念，八年後你將會看到成果。

I want to make sure that I'm the father to them that I never had.

我希望在他們心目中我是一位很棒的父親。

So I was pretty serious about being a dad.

因此，對於「當父親」這件事，我總是嚴肅以待。

It's interesting fear drove me in the beginning.

剛開始擔任爸爸這個腳色時，我是非常恐懼不安的。

So I was overly on everything.

所以，那時我總是過度操控一切。

No candy, only drink water.

禁止他們吃糖果，只可以喝白開水。

You're gonna have those challenging moments, those accountability moments, you know.

身為一位父親，你將會面臨到許多挑戰和背負重大責任。

I'm raising babies to boys to men.

我把他們從嬰兒養育成人。

Early on showing them what support looks like, feels like.

從他們年紀還小的時候，我就常常鼓勵他們、支持他們。

Things go not so great, helping you recover quickly.

當遇到困難時，協助他們從失敗中再站起來。

If you could now say something to yourself back then...What would you say?

如果你現在可以對以前的自己說幾句話，你想說什麼？

Even though it may not seem like it, they hear you.

雖然兒子們總是看似沒在聽你說話，但他們其實有的。

A lot of times, they'll act like they don't even know I'm there.

很多時候，他們總是會表現出一副他們並不知道我在場。

Julian, he's a senior, and I went to his football game, and I was trying to get there right before half time.

Julian 是我的大兒子，有一次，我想要在他的足球比賽到中場時趕到現場。

So we could walk out, it was senior night.

如此一來，我就可以一同參與他賽季的最後一場主場比賽，並和他一起離開。

And I missed it.

但我錯過了。

The traffic hit and I couldn't get there.

因為交通壅塞，所以我沒能趕到現場。

Later we talked to him, and I apologized.

事後，我向 Julian 道歉。

He was like "it's okay," he's like yeah.

他表現出「沒關係，這沒什麼大不了」的模樣。

He's like, "I kept looking up but I didn't know where you were, I didn't see you."

他說：「其實我一直都在尋找你的身影，但我還是沒有看見你。」

And just that let me know.

正是那個時刻讓我了解到一些事情。

Even though they don't say thanks for coming, or you know I'm glad you're there.

雖然他們不曾說類似「謝謝你來參與」或是「你能出現，我很開心」的話。

They're not gonna ever say that.

我想他們也永遠不會這麼說。

But you know, hearing that let's me know like, man, things are off if I'm not there.

但是，聽到那樣的話讓我知道，我的出現與否對他們影響很大。

Oh!

天啊！

What are you doing?

你們怎麼會在這裡？

I want to say thank you for showing me like, how to be a man, through like, my teenage years.

我想說，謝謝你在我正值青春期的時候，告訴我該怎麼當一位成熟的男人。

Because I know it's been hard, but thank you.

我知道這不是一件簡單的事情，真的很謝謝你。

Thank you for supporting me at my football games, and through all my life.

謝謝你無論是在我的足球比賽上或是任何事情上都一直支持著我。

It means a lot.

這對我來說意義重大。

I'd like to thank you for bringing me into this world as your son.

我想謝謝你讓我來到這個世界，當你的兒子。

As I was getting older, you're building me into a man.

隨著我年紀的增長，你漸漸把我塑造成一位成熟的男人。

I'd like to thank you for that.

非常謝謝你。

You guys are becoming good men!

你們真的都長大了！

You're more than welcome.

不客氣。

Man.

天啊。

Do you hear that a lot?

你常常聽到那樣的話嗎？

No.

不常。

There are a lot of things that I want to accomplish.

我有很多想要達成的人生目標。

Lot of things that I want to do but I've always known that my biggest contribution to this world would be you.

雖然我有很多想要做的事情，但我知道把你們養育成人將會是我對這世界最大的貢獻。

And it means so much that you said that to me.

而你們剛剛所說的話，對我來說，真的非常重要。