Sometimes, peoplecallme "BreakupBrad," mostlikelybecause I'm theonlypersononearthwhoiswillingtospendover a decadehelpingpeoplegettheirexbackorgetthrough a toughbreakup.
Now, thankfullyforyouguys, I actuallydolovedoingthat, and I'm happytogeekoutonbreakuppsychology, and I'm alsohappytomakevideoslikethisone, where I'm gonnagiveyoubeautifulviewerssomeadviceaboutsendingyourexgiftsorlovenotes.
Now, I planningonkeepingthisoneshort.
Andall I'm gonnadolike I saidisanswerthisquestion:
Buthonestly, folks, actuallythisvideocouldhavebeenthatshort, and I could'veendeditthere, becausethat's prettymuchwhat I thinkabouttheideaofgivingyourex a giftorsendingthemanykindofgushy, spill-your-gutsloveletter.
Thatis a reallygreatexampleof a horribleidea.
Pleasedonotsendyourexanykindofgift, ever.
I honestlycannotthinkof a singlesituationwherethiswouldeverbe a goodidea, and I'venever, everrecommendedittooneofmyclients.
It's justnever a goodidea; notforChristmas, notforValentines, birthdays, justreallynever.
Givingyourexanykindofgiftwhenyouwantthembackisbasicallysaying, "I'm sodesperateforyoutotakemeback, that I'm evenwillingtotryandbuyyourlove."
Really, youneedtoappearlikeyou'rethriving, andthatyou'rehappywithoutyourex, andthatyoureallyjustdon't give a shitaboutthemanymore. Thatisreallytheonlyeffectivewaytochangetheirmindaboutbreakingupwithyouandtorewiretheirfeelingsforyouandthepossibilityof a futuretogether.
Andloveletters... justasbadasgifts.
Honestly, maybeevenworse.
Don't showyouremotionstoyourexatallifyoucanavoidit, because 99% ofthetimeallit's gonnadoismakeyoulookneedy, desperate, andvulnerable.
Now I doactuallyrealizethat, unlikegifts, theideaofspillingyourheartouttoyourex, thatcanhavesomeappeal… youprobablyjustwanna... youputitalloutthere, saywhatyoufeelandbedonewithit.
But, assomeonewhohashelpedover a thousand... 100,000 clients I shouldsay, reversetheirbreakups, I cansafelysaythisjustnotgonnahelpyouwinbackyourex.
Now I havemadevideosonthismessageinthepast, butbasicallyitsjust a messageyoucansendtoyourexinverycertainsituationswhereyou'vemademistakesinthepast, begging, pleading, apologizingoverandover— andthismessagewillhelpyouundothatdamageandsortofresetthestageinyourex's mindtomoreofan “emotionalneutral” state.
Nowreally, thismessageisjustforspecificsituations, andissomewhatof a last-ditchmove, butthankfullythemajorityofyouwatchingareneveractuallygonnaneedtousetheCleanSlatemessageatall.
And I can't getintodetailshere, thisissupposedtobe a shortvideo, butyoureallydoneedtoproperlysetthestageandmakesureyouusetheCleanSlatetemplate 100 percentcorrectly, orelseitmayactuallybackfireandmakethingsevenworse.