it's actually a very simple three-step

process but of course i'm going to delve

deep into each step so that you have a

full understanding of what is going on

and why the first step is to exhibit

value this is what causes the initial

attraction so let's imagine that

everyone has a number floating on top of

their heads this number correlates with

how much you can offer the world the

amount of money you have your looks your

network your popularity your knowledge

and so on and as shallow as it sounds

we're attracted to people with higher

numbers than us

people who are of higher value because

simply they have more things to offer we

believe they can make us happier

however we can actually see this number

we can look through someone's wallet or

find out exactly how many people they

know

so instead we use our senses to estimate

what a person's value is in order to get

her to like you you have to exhibit high

levels of value now this doesn't

necessarily mean you need to have tons

of money or a nice-looking car or a six

pack all of those things do scream value

and the absolutely will help but there

are two traits that scream high value

more than any other trade out there and

the first is social proof

let's say you see someone with a ton of

friends you think to yourself wow he

must be a great person and we see him

with a ton of girls that he's always

hanging out with you think wow he must

get laid

often this is what people see from a

third-person perspective if you want a

girl to like you you have to show her

that you're well liked by others and

there's no shortcut to this this means

you have to hone your social skills to a

point where you have an abundance of

friends to a point where you can give

off an incredible first impression

check out some of my videos on

communication skills and start talking

to everyone

nothing catches the girls or frankly

anyone's eyes more than a guy who walks

into a room and he's interacting with

everyone and everyone is just happy to

see him

the second is confidence someone who

projects confidence through their body

language comes off as someone who is of

extremely

I value if you look at men who have

tremendous amount of power and wealth

will notice that they walk and talk

certain way in general their movements

are slower and they take up more space

slower because they know they have

control over their world they're not in

a rush and they take up more space

because they aren't scared of being

vulnerable because it's a biological

instincts for us to close up our body

when we feel threatened or scared and

when you see someone acting this way you

assume they have something you assume

they are of high value and the great

thing about confidence is that you don't

need to be the CEO of a company or the

leader of a gang

all you have to do is learn how to

imitate this body language if you can

just mimic their body language you give

off the same or a day do you might say

well I can't fake it i don't want to lie

to myself I don't want to pretend that

I'm confident in myself when I have

nothing to be confident about while

confidence is a state of mind there's no

prerequisite that you need to me in

order to be confident or act confident

you could be a starving unemployed kid

who lives at his mother's basement and

have a ton more confidence than someone

who makes six digits and upon meeting

you

people will find you more attractive of

course only if you teach yourself how to

do it I'll do a video about confident

body language and how you can adopt it

and i'll put a link here

the second step to getting a girl to

like you is to exhibit desire and this

is what causes the seduction this step

is actually the make-it-or-break-it step

for most guys out there so you don't

have to have sky levels of value for a

girl to find you attractive

what you do need however is the ability

to show her that you're interested in

her see a woman will separate every man

she meets into one of three different

categories the first is the yes category

this is for men that she's willing to

sleep with and date the second category

is the no category this is for the guys

she is not willing to sleep with your

date if you ever got friends on by a

girl

this is the category that you landed

yourself in and the third and final

category is the maybe category

how it works is if a girl meets you and

she finds you attractive she will place

you into the maybe category in order to

enter the yes category you have to show

her that

desire if you don't and there's only a

short window of time in which you can

you'll automatically get thrown into the

no category this is why so many people

who try to text or talk to her way into

a girls pants get friend zone because

you're not showing desire by acting like

their friend

however there are two very effective

ways to show her that you desire and

they are number one to tell her that you

find her attractive and this is a more

upfront approach and it works very well

because it's very rare in today's

culture now you might say well what

about all those guys were just cat call

woman all day that doesn't work well

yeah of course because they skip the

first step when someone who hasn't built

attraction tells you that you're

attractive it comes off as creepy but if

you've already been introduced and she

does find you attractive it becomes

charming

the second way to go about exhibited

desire is through touch touch is

significantly more powerful than words

think back to a time where somebody

accidentally strokes your hand and just

sent tingles all over your body

there is no better way to show girl that

you desire her into touch her

now of course you can't just jump in and

start groping a girl there is in order

of what is acceptable

there's something called the Kino

escalation ladder and i'll leave a link

right here for you to take a look at it

but essentially it's an order of which

you can use touch to exhibit your desire

now in order for you to exhibit desire

you have to do it in person always

always in person which is why i highly

suggest you to use text to get her to

come out on a date with you then exhibit

desire from there a key thing to

remember is that the longer you wait the

more likely she'll put you into the no

category and when you do finally come

about telling her that you do like her

you'll get the whole all I don't see you

that way speech because guess what you

took too goddamn long and now you're in

the no category which brings us to the

next and final step

the final step to getting a girl to like

you is to refrain from acts of neediness

this is a little bit different in that

it's a step that consists of something

not to do there's nothing more

off-putting in the world than someone

who is needy is considered to be one of

if not the most unattractive trait out

there

but what exactly is being needy well

mark Manson describes it as prioritizing

another person's perception of you over

your perception of yourself and that

this prioritization leads to all

unattractive behavior in men whether

directly or indirectly I know it's kind

of hard to wrap your mind around it but

here are some examples of needy behavior

changing the way you act to try to get

her to like you constantly texting her

when she does something you don't agree

with you don't say anything

buying things for her on warranted

seeking validation getting angry when a

girl rejects you

there's a whole lot more but you kind of

get a gist of it what's important is the

following the most effective way to not

be needy is to adopt what's called an

abundance mindset this is when you know

you have multiple options available

take for example a salesman who closes

which means he makes a sale every single

day

let's say one day he just happens to not

make a sale does he get flustered does

he get angry no because he knows he'll

close a sale tomorrow

this all comes down to understanding the

numbers game to adopt an abundance

mindset you can have all your eggs in

one basket because if you do then that

one basket becomes precious and signs of

neediness will appear never limit

yourself to one girl unless you're

dating her

don't only talk to one girl because you

will instinctively start acting needy

because she's the only girl in your

world approach and talked to many girls

have as many girls as possible in your

friend group

this way you'll naturally avoid any

signs of meatiness when someone needy

expressed his desire he becomes creepy

when someone who is not needy expressed

his desire he becomes charming it's a

fine line but a very distinctive one and

that's it these are the three steps that

you need to achieve in order to get her

to like you show signs of high-value

then immediately show her that you

desire her and no matter what avoid

becoming needy because if you do it's

game over

if you found value in this video I'd

suggest you check out some of my other

videos on dating and relationships or

some of the ones on improving your

communication skills

remember guys anything can be learned

and anyone can learn them no matter how

poorly you view yourself

I assure you that this stuff can be

learned and eventually mastered