Now, I'm just gonna check that.

Haven't got any cheese seeds in my teeth because I've just had Oh, my God.

There is definitely a chance he does Get out.

I think we're good to go.

So I have been talking about making this video with obviously people in my circle for a very, very long time.

I've been working up to this on dhe.

I can kind of put it off any longer.

I'm gonna be talking about a subject that were a lot of people are told to ignore.

I know I have been told to ignore this subject Maur Times, and I probably had hot dinners on DDE.

In all honesty, I am.

I'm not gonna kind of be quiet on the subject.

It's also kind of inspired by the changes with social media at the moment.

Obviously, we've all seen that Twitter has been censoring tweets and removing them.

I'm sure there's a way that you can kind of turn off that being done in settings.

Not that I would ever go and look for it because I welcome it.

110%.

Instagram has just announced that they will be giving uses the opportunity to rethink their comment before they post it, just to make sure that they're making the right decision by posting it on.

I also noticed last night whilst watching Eugenia Cooney and Shane Dawson's video that You Cheap is now put a little box at the top of the comments section, basically reminding you to be kind and check out the community guidelines on dhe.

That's all there as well.

So steps are being made to protect users a little bit more.

We're still a long way off.

Don't get me wrong like this is This is such a small step.

But I think that platform's acknowledging the fact that their platforms have been abused by a lot of their users, and they've been abused in a way for people to use it to abuse other people.

It's such a huge acknowledgement, and I know that for someone that has experienced quite a lot, that gave me a little bit of, you know, peace of mind.

You're acknowledging that there's a problem, and that really means something to me.

Obviously, when I was watching Eugenia Cooney's video, the one that she'd end up after Shane Dawson's.

I saw a girl who clearly had taken a huge battering by the Internet on.

I'm sure that hers is on another level.

You could see she was seven inches, but please be nice to me.

Just just please, just for once just be nice to me.

She just kept repeating the fact that she wanted people to be nice to her, and she wanted people to stop being horrible to her.

This video is more about tips that I can give people for coping with, dealing with online hate that maybe they're struggling with, because I have noticed that over the past few months I've received a lot of messages from my fellow creators on dhe.

Seen a lot of tweets of people that are struggling, and I'm always I just slide straight into their DMC because I know the What's the word?

The comfort that it brought me when two girls particularly sit into mighty EMS to be like you've got this, it's fine.

You see anyone online saying that they are struggling with you know the negativity online, message them, speak to them and be there for them because that's the biggest thing that I think that you could do for a person.

This video is basically continuing from a conversation that I had with a lovely lady who I follow online.

I'm not going to name any names, but she is a home where Instagram A It's not even really her main job on Dhe.

She just found that one day all of a sudden there were these anonymous accounts popping up, and they were sending her really unkind messages.

I wrote her a message, and I instantly saw how that affected her.

So I wanted to put what I wrote in that message into a video.

So that should anyone find themselves in a situation where they are struggling with the messages and opinions of others, that they can watch this video and they can remember, and they can remind themselves of what is actually going on, because you have to break down the situation to understand it on dhe, it makes it all a little bit easier to deal with.

I want to stop by defining what online hatred is on my negativity on dhe.

I think that that is something that I've often was one of the things that really confused me on my channel.

It's festival.

It's not for anyone else to define what is online hatred to you.

If you are receiving messages that make you feel unhappy, that make you feel sad that make you that hurt you on the upset, You?

That's your definition off online hatred, online hatred does not have to include swear words or calling someone names.

That was another thing.

I really struggled with the old sense the old system for reporting comments, because if I was to say to you, by the way, Sandra, I love your content.

I followed you for four years, but I just wanted to let you know that actually, your front tooth is really wonky, and it kind of makes me feel a little bit sick, and I might actually throw up in my mouth.

I didn't use a single swear word there on dhe, yet that is such a nice, unkind thing to say to a person.

But that would not be flagged by one of the automated systems because there wasn't, you know, see words and f words and God knows what else in there.

What I want to tell you.

First off is that if messages are making you feel unhappy on Dhe, sad on are giving you that sort of ache in your chest like, Oh my God, What?

Why is someone saying this to me?

Then that is your definition off online hatred Nobody else gets to tell you what that is.

If there's someone saying this is my opinion, If your opinion is nasty and makes someone feel upset, then you could have shared your opinion in a better way.

Constructive criticism does.

It is not something that should make someone feel unhappy.

If I was to say to you, Sandra, we love Sandra Sandra, I love your channel.

There's only one thing that I would like to let you know is that the sound on your video is a little bit off on dhe.

It would be great if you could maybe look into getting a microphone was something, because that would really make my viewing of your videos so much better.

That's constructive criticism.

Constructive criticism does not include someone's looks.

It does not include someone's person and who they are and everything about them.

You can't constructively criticize someone on that their personality.

This isn't for you to tell someone who they should be.

This is just someone online sharing a part of their life with the Internet.

And if you feel like you need to negatively comment on that, take yourself away.

Just take yourself away on.

Leave that person be and let them be in there.

Happy place.

I'm sure that person has a great set of parents around them or great self friends or a great husband or boyfriend or partner or whatever that will let them know if there's something that maybe, you know, they could work on about himself.

However, that person might be in therapy already working on that aspect of themselves.

You don't need to be that person on dhe.

You also don't need to accept that from another person.

Now that we have the definition off what online hatred is, and it's whatever makes you feel uncomfortable and makes you feel sad, you have the right to protect yourself.

There was a lot off messages that I would receive, like anyone shares their opinion, and Lydia blocks them.

I actually I am.

I have a trigger finger, like if someone says anything anything that could potentially make me feel a certain type of way book like it's It's just it's like that if I see that you have liked and unkind comment because it's me behind Terek A.

There's no one filtering my comments.

I know that I would feel too distant from distant from you.

Elif.

There was someone filtering my comments on dso I It's still me behind here.

And if I see that you have liked a nasty comment about me what?

Come on.

And I received emails and I received messages like, This person loves you and they just can't seem to act access your your profile in the moment.

Then you did something.

Okay, I'm not about to be about around the bush here.

You might have thought I didn't see it or wouldn't see it.

And I can't see it all.

But look, and I would urge anyone that feels and sees anything like that to use their block button.

Overuse it.

Protect yourself.

You have the complete and utter ability to protect your positive space.

And don't you dare let anybody intrude on that on affect you in any type of wait because they don't have that right.

You use your block button and you use it as much as you want.

Well, getting quite heated in this.

You know, I'm passionate about this, and I'd probably say that this is the final point on this might be more.

I I would like people Thio stop telling people to ignore online negativity because I was told to ignore it and I was told to rise above it.

And I know what it's like when you see someone and you're like, Oh, my gosh, they are so lovely and so wonderful I cannot understand why they would ever even listen to these messages, but I think when you're receiving one or two, you know every so often in like a year, it's probably a little bit easier to just kind of brush it off.

But when these messages are coming hourly on multiple platforms, they're coming into your direct messages.

People are sending your screen grabs.

They are following you about every single time that you post Cem content.

It might just be one person doing it.

It could be 10 or 15 people that have decided to band together and do it.

We need to stop telling people to ignore it.

I think that that's a really problematic thing to do.

I'm not sitting here and telling you to ignore what that person has just said about you and your person and anything about the way that you look.

I'm never, ever gonna tell anyone to ignore it, acknowledge it if you read it, acknowledge it, but take the time to break it down on, Understand what is being said and who it's being said by.

I think if anyone is watching this on Dhe, they've experienced this.

The biggest thing that probably hurts them in their chest is the fact that they would never in a 1,000,000 years ever do this to a person.

They would never even come close to sending an unkind message to someone unkind comment or saying anything under someone else's content that isn't like positive.

Most of us, if we don't like something, we would be like, okay, and it's gone.

The words you know, if someone says to me, Lydia, you need to get your teeth fit That doesn't really hurt me when I see it, I'm like, really like Okay, why would you send that?

And that's My first thought is, Why would you send that on?

That's what upsets me.

It's the intention and the malice on Dhe.

The person sat behind there thinking, I'm gonna tell her that her teeth our shit.

So let's understand what that is, and that's understand why a person would do that, because most of us would never do that.

And that is because most of us are to us certain degree, happy content fulfilled people on dhe.

We don't spend a lot of our time focusing on what other people have on what other people are doing on DDE with generally, quite, you know, how you might have an amazing family.

We might have a really great husband and two cats, and that might be enough for us.

A lot of people don't look at life like that.

A lot of people will have a lovely husband in two cats but still think.

But that person's got that.

She doesn't even have to work half assed hard as I do.

There's a lot of people that don't work as hard as I do on Dhe get more than me, but I don't care on dhe.

I think that that is where this all comes from is how you view your life, Have you?

My life is like every day I wake up and I'm like Who another day?

Another day?

Wow.

Lucky me.

I've got another day.

Anything else that happens after that is brilliant.

Like Wow.

Okay, so you're telling me I get to go and have, like, lunch with my friends today?

The joy Wow, I am blessed because so many people don't get those opportunities.

If you're someone that looks at at life and they're like, well, another day of no having what I want out of life and not having you know, the Ferrari on the drive and not having the Balenciaga handbag that I want and hating my life, if that's your your view, every every day that you wake up probably not the happiest of persons or people's or whatever, but we're not very good English either.

On that's where I think the difference comes from.

A lot of these people that are looking at what people are doing online are viewing their lives in a very different way that we view our lives on dhe.

They're looking at you and they're thinking Why does she get to have that?

You know, sometimes I look at Angelina Jolie and I'm like, Why does she get a private jet?

And I don't And I'm like, Oh, yeah, she's Angelina Jolie, I think to myself.

Oh, that's because you know you're not on Oscar winning actress on Dhe.

You don't charge two million film.

So that would be why Lydia and it will make sense.

Perhaps if I really wanted to be an Oscar winning actress.

If I'd ever gone to acting classes or even done GCS see drama.

I could have been Lydia Millen, Oscar winning actress with a private jet over that stuff.

But I'm not, so I chose to do with my life.

Andi, if I really, you know, feel that strongly about it, I'm gonna go and chase my dreams, and I'm gonna try and make it happen, because if I don't try, it's never gonna happen.

This is such a long winded roundabout talking of this, but you are the person that went out and got what you wanted.

You still might not have everything that you want in life, but you still look at your life and you're happy Ah, lot of these people that are writing these things and sending these messages on DDE saying these nasty things about people online.

Don't look at their life like that.

They could have a wonderful life, but they're not looking at it like that.

While she's got this and I don't have that well, she's got this and I don't have that.

She doesn't deserve that.

She's not worked hard enough for that when really, you should be focusing that energy on the inside and making the changes that you want to achieve the things that you want.