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I love doing research, but some of the best tips I've gotten
have been from other moms.
Now momming is my favorite topic and I
want to share what I know.
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My therapist was one of my first calls
after I came home and had my baby because I was like,
I'm so woke to postpartum as a thing.
She was like, are you having thoughts of suicide?
No.
Are you having thoughts of when he
cries, you don't want to get up and feed him?
And I'm like, no.
I'm already prone to anxiety and depression.
I left myself notes on my mirror.
This is temporary.
You are experiencing postpartum.
I was like, be prepared.
Take the steps that's going to get you
the best solution, that's going to make you the healthiest.
Yes.
I personally believe that all of our self-esteem
comes from responsibility and accomplishing
your responsibility.
So I get a lot of self-esteem from being
a good responsible mom, and then still take
time for a necessary separateness.
I am going to need a lot of help with that.
I will help you.
Please.
Because I don't have time for guilt.
I'm not interested in it.
It's a useless emotion.
You can acknowledge--
Who is this person?
Guilt is wasted energy, so is shame, so is regret.
It's all wasted energy, and that's
energy you could be putting into having
a good time with your kids.
Is everybody hearing this?
Guys, I'm wrapping it up nicely for you.
Weirdly enough, because it is so different--
that's why it's fun to talk about--
I came home and I felt high as a kite for three months.
I would sit and nurse the baby, and be in the living room
and just be like--
[GIGGLING] Just giggle to myself.
It was so weird.
How great is that, though?
It was wonderful.
But I did not expect that experience.
I was incredibly grateful for it.
But a lot of women don't have it.
I had this.
It was like, oh my god.
I was crazy.
Each week, he's almost five weeks now,
and I'm just starting again.
We just went out on a date on Saturday night
and I had my first hard liquor that I've had in 10 months.
I had three sips and I was like, this
is the greatest night of my entire life.
I have my son here who's so beautiful,
and my husband was so beautiful, and this delicious
Japanese whiskey that's so beautiful.
And it was great.
And I could start to see into my future as a mom who boozes.
No, I'm kidding.
I could just see into my future as,
oh, I'm going to find myself and I'm going to find my way.
It takes a minute.
Do you want to feel how big my jaw
muscle is from talking so much?
This is not a [INAUDIBLE].
[LAUGHING] What?
Kristin, are you kidding me?