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  • Welcome back, challengers.

  • Well, yesterday we talked about G easy wiling out on Instagram with Meghan Be stallion and why his super PDS video with with Meg, seemed to indicate that he was not over one, if not all of his exes like Halsey and Jasmine.

  • Food and hurt.

  • And But it's very easy to talk about what guys are doing wrong, writes my favorite thing in the world.

  • I built a whole career off of it because guys are a nightmare and constantly doing things that are wrong.

  • But what about if we're the ones doing something wrong?

  • And today the collective we is localized on Vanessa Hudgens because since her break up from Austin Butler, who she was with for nine years, she is G is doing the most on instagram.

  • And to be honest, it kind of makes me think Austin is winning this break up.

  • We'll break it down, but first just want to remind you to follow me on Instagram at Shallot XO, where I let you tag me in news that you see vote in the next video topic and came up with all of my travel and fashion ventures.

  • Also tune into the Wendy Williams Show Tomorrow Wednesday, February 5th Check your local listings.

  • I will be doing the reality rewind section of the show.

  • It's gonna be really fun.

  • She calls me Shady Shaolin.

  • It's amazing.

  • I love Wendy like I literally love her.

  • So let's talk about baby V.

  • All right?

  • So as we know her in Austin, Butler split a little while ago, and I did a whole video on it.

  • You guys can check it out, but all right, you know, everyone like them as a couple because they seemed Loki.

  • They seemed really into each other.

  • They just seem like Kana Normal.

  • And I've heard that she really was sort of pinning her like career renaissance to his career.

  • That's taking off.

  • He was in.

  • He just got passively Elvis in the Elvis biopic, which is gonna be, like, huge for him.

  • And he was also in once upon a time in Hollywood, Which, by the way, by the way, I watched on the flight home from Paris.

  • What in hell is that movie supposed to be about?

  • I know the Manson family.

  • Okay, I know that, but like, the plot to me did not make any sense and I was like a captive audience.

  • You know, I feel like we've become used to watching movies were like half scrolling our phone, eating a snack, hooking up.

  • But like I was watching it and I'm like, Am I the only one who has no idea how these stories were late or like what the fuck I'm even doing here?

  • Can they just make the whole movie about that?

  • Little eight year old girl, because she was adorable, cannot get enough of that little thing.

  • But Austin Butler isn't it, and the nexus career is gone not quite the same way she's not co starring with Brad Pitt in DiCaprio and getting a lead in a Basel arm and bio pic, you know.

  • But what she is getting the lead in is her own thirst traps.

  • Because you guys been saying, Hey, do a video on Vanessa Hudgens and how she's been like thirst trapping on the daily since splitting up from Austin Butler.

  • And at first I thought, you know what?

  • Good for her.

  • Good for her, because maybe the reason she didn't hear to four post like these very overtly sexy pictures is maybe she was in a relationship where that wasn't okay with her partner.

  • And we have a lot of us have been there.

  • And we've talked about this in videos before.

  • Like the hallmark of control is isolation.

  • You know, on the homework of abuse is control, which is therefore isolation.

  • Not that awesome is abuse like I don't think he was.

  • I have no idea.

  • But that's not where we're going with this.

  • But that was my first instinct.

  • Like, Well, maybe she's, like, free and out of her cage, and maybe she is.

  • But here's the thing, Ladies.

  • You gotta wake up.

  • You gotta wait a minute.

  • You gotta wait a minute.

  • Respect the public mourning period for your relationship Before you get your ass and titties out on the Internet.

  • That's all I'm saying.

  • But let's talk more about the nest before we get into the lessons we can learn.

  • So baby, I counted.

  • Guess how many pictures she's posted on the grid on the grit in the last week.

  • Just just take a wild guess.

  • Just take a wild guess.

  • 28.

  • That is a hell of a lot of photos.

  • Don't count, right?

  • You know what?

  • Let's I didn't Let's say it's 23.

  • That is still a hell of a lot of photos.

  • Ah, lot of photos.

  • Even though you're a movie star, I get it.

  • Like, What are you doing that you're posting?

  • I'm so glad you asked.

  • Let's go through them.

  • Okay, so she started.

  • She came out of the gate on fire for this, like posting Bonanza.

  • I mean, she does post, like, kind of a lot, but she'll post like once a day once every other day.

  • All right, 23 photos, girl, you are.

  • What's that?

  • Three a day.

  • More than three on the grid per day.

  • And she did this trip.

  • Tick this Siri's of throwback photos, right.

  • Throwback Thursday to the reminding music video.

  • I don't know what that means with Sean.

  • How global.

  • Then she pulls another black and white.

  • Well, I just found a folder in my email from some photographer with all these pics.

  • Thought I'd share E three years.

  • Four years?

  • That's a symbol of media, right?

  • Like if you have something like a baby like Are you OK?

  • Are you OK?

  • Is your brain short circuiting you having a stroke?

  • Did you just like, just like stroke out And, like, leave your hand on the button like, Hey, with seven wise, he's drunk to be sexy.

  • That and then this picture and she looks Look, she looks great in all these photos.

  • I'm not saying you shouldn't get this body out, girl.

  • I would, but we're gonna get toe.

  • Why?

  • This is inadvisable after break up in a moment.

  • So she has This one Might have already posted this one, but whatever period L o l l o l She has an l o l.

  • Addiction.

  • A little addiction.

  • She puts L o l in everything I hate people who use in L.

  • A.

  • Well, like it's a period.

  • It's not.

  • Max used to do that.

  • And I was like, If you put Ella Well in one more fucking text the next time you want to get laid, I'm gonna say hello.

  • Well, is that sexy too?

  • Because it's not sexy to me either.

  • Stop.

  • She puts it in everything.

  • She puts it in her instagram story.

  • Been in the car too long.

  • L a Well, we're gonna talk about her story in a moment, and then So Okay, so she post this one like thirst trap picture of her in the swimsuit.

  • Looking good.

  • Okay.

  • Might have already posted this one.

  • But whatever I do, you know, Do you really not know?

  • Do you really not know?

  • Because I bet you would know if you post it because people had a good reaction vest.

  • They 2.7 1,000,000 likes you would remember if you got that kind of reaction, right?

  • And then this whole just found this this folder and my girl Who in the hell are you tryingto Who are you trying to fool?

  • You know that's not true.

  • You know that?

  • You're like, you're just, like mania, scrolling like wasted on boxed wine.

  • You're like, I'm gonna find some thirst tropics.

  • You're calling your agent Who's got thirst trap pictures to me.

  • All of this adds up to You're not over it.

  • U R g easy on yourself.

  • We don't need a G easy ourselves.

  • So how did she post his black bikini ones then?

  • Boom.

  • She hits us with the side boob.

  • She gets a rather ill advised tattoo.

  • It looks like a wart.

  • It looks like it looks like some horrible wound.

  • That's the thing with dark tattoos that are small like they look like like cancer cells.

  • She got a sunflower on her on her boob.

  • Gotta boobs out as we think she may be faced under boobs Look a little bit bigger.

  • And she said, And to conclude our hashtag thirsty Thursday Ha!

  • Cry laughing M o J girl.

  • And then more pictures from this.

  • The man with the plan for Ines mania.

  • Ella Well means m a n I a Okay, another one.

  • I mean, she's posting, like, stop it.

  • No, I mean, she's posting three grid photos from everything that she goes to one of her and her friend like behalf smooching and like a gallery.

  • It's just like girl, look enough like enough.

  • Okay, you could be out doing cool things, but you don't need to be posting three grid photos from the same event.

  • It's not even like an event.

  • You're like hanging out with your friends.

  • So and then, then there's more.

  • There's her in the mirror, like in her bra top Another bathing suit.

  • One like more selfie.

  • So many selfies.

  • Give it a fucking rest.

  • They okay?

  • You're cute.

  • We all know you're cute.

  • You're going a little overboard and then we get to her stories and keep in mind this is one day like this is just one day that I've looked at her at her page.

  • I haven't been like keeping up with her for, like, weeks or something, but I know all I need to know from a cursory glance at her entire grid and one day looking at her stories.

  • I hate people who document their inane day.

  • I don't know, some people like that and they want to, like, truly watch, like the day of.

  • Okay, so she posted something about eye drops, ended it with what is there in l.

  • A well near there might be posted four things about some movie she's watching with a talking monkey.

  • All right, then comes the three different selfies videos of her in a car, like in a lift.

  • I'm It's a vibe in my left l o l This is what happens when I'm in the car too long.

  • L O l Vanessa, every l o l you post, you lose this break up a little bit more because what's Austin been posting?

  • What's awesome in posting his last post was October 19th until three days ago when he posted.

  • I mean, admittedly a very like a kn cute picture of him.

  • And like a pink suit.

  • You, sir, are no Harry Styles.

  • Austin Butler.

  • Yeah, this this looking it.

  • This look, ain't it?

  • It's like Cole Sprouse mix of Harry styles.

  • And I don't mean that in a compliment.

  • Like literally in any way.

  • I just the poses weird.

  • Those pants come up too high.

  • I feel like I'm seeing, like, some boy camel toe that No, I don't like it.

  • I don't like it.

  • The pants are too short.

  • I just like pink.

  • Oh, And who do we have leaving?

  • Three fire emojis as a comment.

  • Ashley Teasdale, you traitorous bitch.

  • There is nothing I hate more than a friend who, when you break up with a boyfriend, it's like, I don't You know what?

  • You guys are both my friends.

  • Really?

  • That's funny.

  • That's funny, because when you get dumped, don't call my ass up.

  • You want to call your other B f f my ex?

  • The only qualification I have for friends?

  • My enemies are your enemies.

  • That's it.

  • If you hate the people I hate weaken shell.

  • We got a vibe.

  • If you're like, you know, I don't I don't want to get involved.

  • Oh, okay.

  • I don't want to get involved with your bullshit, either.

  • Like that.

  • We're all done here.

  • So, Ashley, I don't care how much time you spend with them.

  • It's a divorce.

  • You have to pick a side.

  • I literally hate it when people don't do that loyalty over anything.

  • So what can we learn here?

  • Right?

  • Because, like I said, meeting finesse is truly just living her best life.

  • And she's like, Wait a minute, I got this body.

  • I don't need to keep it under wraps.

  • About 37 million instagram followers to Austin's poultry 2.3.

  • Why am I Why am I keeping the girl in the box?

  • Like I said, period of mourning?

  • Because everything that she's doing, even if it is, ah, 100% like authentic and Austin has kind of kept her in a gilded cage or whatever.

  • She looks reactive instead of Proactiv.

  • And just like we said about G easy, that is the worst way to look after a break up.

  • You wanna wanna break up businesses usual, and her business has not been these kind of pictures not to this degree, Not to this Hello remaining out like titties, outs on fire, talk to kind of mania.

  • It's been like show post like pictures, looking pretty like sports brought pictures, but not like too early to the level that this is.

  • And so we just feels very like if you truly want to make your ex think that you don't care And like we say that is the ultimate goal of a break up, that's the goal of a break up.

  • Then it has to be business as usual.

  • And this is not business as usual, right?

  • You can't go toe one direction where your sub tweeting all over the dialogue and you also can't go.

  • The titty shot round either girl, because that tells your ex I got to her.

  • I got to her.

  • You could do that.

  • Maybe after a little bit.

  • Or let's say, let's say, But she's being reactive like we said, because Austin wouldn't let her post cease forms.

  • I have no idea.

  • Then you call that out, you say, Yo, my ex would never let me post a photo like this.

  • So here I am.

  • Motherfuckers.

  • I'm back.

  • Have some respect like, be transparent about it.

  • Then it's like are all right, you know, lean into whatever you think people are gonna make fun of you about.

  • That is the secret to success and the secret to avoiding scandal and avoiding judgments Not like make fun of yourself and be self deprecating to the point where you're spring the insults on yourself so that other people can't, you know, like in pitch perfect like fat Amy is that Amy Rebel Wilson character.

  • And they're like, You call yourself fat Amy.

  • She's like, Yeah, so that nobody else can call me fat Amy, You know, don't take it to that degree.

  • We're like slutty idiot Shallot like.

  • But my shining example of this is my friend ELISA.

  • Us might know where she is.

  • Stand up comedian.

  • She's incredible, Liza Schlesinger, and she's got a dope body like she works out constantly.

  • She is like fit is fucked.

  • Big real boots, a hater, but she'll opposed to pick like a sexy pick in show.

  • Caption it.

  • Look at my body.

  • Yeah, she's impose some like annoying quotes like Let your love be as deep as the seas went.

  • Look at my body.

  • Look at my ass.

  • Look at these abs.

  • Look how hard I worked for this.

  • And I'm like, I got respect for you because you're not pretending like we're not all seeing what we're seeing.

  • You're being up front about it, and that's respectful causes like, Hey, she's owning it.

  • And I don't get the sense the Vanessa's owning this.

  • I get the sense that there is a degree of mania.

  • Also, do you know what I heard?

  • You know what?

  • I heard that she's getting fall down drunk every night, and she's like, historically not been a big partier, and she's like on a rampage.

  • This also tells me Homegirl is not about it like she's not.

  • She's not dealing with this.

  • Well, that also tells me maybe Austin precipitated this break up.

  • You know, like even when we break up with someone, it's difficult.

  • You know, I crime in any relationship ends whether I'm the one to pull the plug or not.

  • But I don't get like, blacked out, and I don't go on a thirst trap rampage because it's mean to rub that into someone's face.

  • I mean, can you imagine anything crueler than having to see how hot.

  • I am on the Internet and knowing that I no longer belong to you.

  • Am I not merciful?

  • I just don't have, like, the need to do that if I'm the one who walked away.

  • But when I'm the one who got dumped, I'm like my paycheck.

  • Like Gimme.

  • Let's slap the bag and slap my ass and put all this on the internet.

  • And I look weak.

  • I look crazy and I look shook, right?

  • And the way we move on dignity.

  • A man can take love from us.

  • He can take our stability.

  • He can take our house, He can take our possessions.

  • He cannot take our dignity unless we give it to him.

  • He can take steal, burglarize those other things.

  • Dignity is something we hand over and we gotta stop.

  • And we don't think wonder posting things like this, that that's what we're doing.

  • We think I'm showing him.

  • No.

  • I mean, you are showing him something.

  • You're showing him that you care.

  • You're showing him that you cannot maintain the course of your own dignity and your authenticity.

  • Without him, he has taken with him your ability to be logical to be rational to be.

  • I mean, like, I mean, middle of the road mean, mathematically mean.

  • And that means he has all the power for you.

  • I will never let someone think that that's true.

  • Even if maybe behind the scenes, it is for a minute.

  • Because, of course it is.

  • You end a relationship.

  • Certainly a nine year relationship like her and Austin had.

  • That's a divorce.

  • That's a divorce.

  • I don't care if you didn't have to goto judge to figure out you got divorced.

  • So of course your world is rocked, but you have got to keep it together because ironically, if you want them back, they gotta think they lost you.

  • And they don't think that you're really gone.

  • If they see you reacting like this, they're like, Look out!

  • Look how not?

  • Okay, Shias.

  • And as long as she's in in this like terror state, she's looking for a savior.

  • Me, I can come back in, and I can I can still this water, you know.

  • So if he thinks with I'm sorry, I I left you and you don't seem destroyed.

  • You don't even seem bothered.

  • You're literally posting the exact same things.

  • You weren't.

  • We were together.

  • Holy shit.

  • Maybe she is.

  • Maybe she's calling my bluff because every break up, in a way kind of is a bluff.

  • Everyone on both sides is bluffing.

  • The person who leaves is selling you the story and selling themselves store that they can do better.

  • Maybe they can Maybe they can't.

  • Right.

  • And you, by letting them leave, is your bluffing.

  • And you're selling the story that you can also do better and that your life is gonna keep rolling on without them.

  • And you're not gonna lay down and die in a field to be eaten by wolves.

  • So when he sees that that you really are calling that bluff and you aren't laying down dead did your it's rolling along water off a duck's back.

  • Yeah, I was sad for a minute.

  • I'm over it now.

  • Holy moly.

  • You just called his bluff.

  • And now him walking out the door.

  • I could do better.

  • Everything that's wrong.

  • I don't want to deal with any more.

  • Wait a minute.

  • She she might not let me back, because when guys dump us, they assume that door is still open for a while.

  • No, Look.

  • Alright.

  • It iss iss We know that love doesn't fade overnight.

  • We know that it doesn't.

  • But dignity shouldn't fate either.

  • Our dignity should always outweigh the love we have for people.

  • I love a lot of people, but I love myself more.

  • I love looking myself in the mirror more and going like they don't get to run my life.

  • They don't get to take this joy for me the worst day of my life to get upset, right?

  • It was the day I left my husband.

  • I packed my bags and I left a note and I left and it because it got that bad where he wouldn't He literally wouldn't speak to me.

  • He hadn't spoken me for weeks in my own house.

  • That's a hell on Earth that I would not wish on anyone.

  • I mean, no, I wish on quite a few people, actually, but and I packed my bags and I took them to the Wendy Williams show.

  • It's ironic them going on there tomorrow because I scheduled a new appearance.

  • I had an appearance and it was the worst day.

  • It was the worst day of my life, and I was I was backstage right before I walked out pressing as hard as they could my hands into my tear ducts so that I wouldn't tear up.

  • And when those lights went up Hey, Wendy.

  • Hey, girl.

  • Shady shall ins back.

  • I turned it on and all my friends, like, cancel your parents.

  • You don't have to do this.

  • And I was like, Yes, I d'oh this You don't take that from me.

  • And it's not like he wasn't I don't view him that way is like a taker of things at all.

  • But like the situation that the sadness didn't get to take that from me.

  • And, you know, my life rolled on business as usual, and people didn't know when they looked at my instagram or they didn't know what I was going through.

  • And that is like, the thing that I had that was my small bit of control in a in a situation that was pure tragedy.

  • And okay, so that's why I, like bang on about this like you don't want to look back and think.

  • Look what they took from may.

  • Look what else I allowed them to take?

  • No, because if you're never gonna get back together, you definitely don't want them to see they affect you that way.

  • And if you do think you might, you're going to hasten that re union.

  • You're gonna make it.

  • We're gonna bring this about a lot faster if they truly think they've lost you.

  • That's how people work.

  • You don't know what you got till it's gone.

  • Call their bluff.

  • You wanna go look around for someone else?

  • Great.

  • I'm not waiting.

  • You're careless.

  • Was something valuable?

  • It gets taken.

  • I want to know what you guys have to say about Vanessa and her online behavior.

  • Do you think she's living her best light?

  • I mean, she looks great, like girl.

  • She looks great, but I wish she would, like, dial it down and literally clipped the l.

  • A.

  • Wells.

  • I just I can't Girl ho, don't do it may be a ha ha ha ha ha ha.

  • Elwell is like it's like gas station vocabulary.

  • I've very pejorative relationship with the gas station because I was like, they look like they're from the gas t because I'm thinking of, like, one specific gas station in Florida that's like the apex of hell on earth.

  • And every date line seems to revolve around someone getting kidnapped, A gas station?

  • Not true.

  • Like gas stations.

  • Many of them are adorable.

  • And actually, one of my friends works at a gas station.

  • She's literally the loveliest person, the world.

  • I don't even know what I'm talking about anymore.

  • I'm gonna go.

  • I have an event.

  • I love you guys.

  • Watch me on one day I'll be posting the clip.

  • It's on YouTube.

  • Also, follow me on instagram a challenge X.

  • So if you have a love question head on my website.

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